At what age is it best to start a fam...

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At what age is it best to start a fam...
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Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:14pm

At what age is it best to start a family? (see next post for related question)



  • Under 20
  • 20 - 24
  • 25 - 29
  • 30 - 34
  • 35 - 40
  • Over 40


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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-12-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:15pm
Related question:

Do you think maternal age is at all related to the likelihood of the mother being a SAHM or a WOHM?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:19pm
Yes. I know SAHMs who "have" to SAH because they had kids very young, when they had little or no higher education or significant work experience.

I also have two close friends who chucked their careers now that they are in their 40s - they feel they've worked for over 20 years, and they had kids late (both adopted at least one of their children after fertility problems), so they're entitled to be supported financially and rest on their laurels and SAH.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:19pm
When you are asking "Starting a family", I'm assuming you mean either having or adopting children? I'm asking because I felt that dh & I started our family when we were married. As for the best age to have children, I think it must be based on the individual couple's maturity, relationship stability, financial stability & health among other factors...which varies widely from person to person.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:20pm
I was going to say yes then all the people I know came popping in my mind. Some are older and work because they make good money and enjoy it. Some are younger and stay home but they can not afford daycare and working. So, I really do not know.

K

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:22pm
I'll answer my own question...

Personally, I think that maternal age probably is related to the chances of one being a SAHM or WOHM. It seems that women who wait later to have children tend to wait because they want to do things like complete their educations, or reach a certain point in their careers. These more career-minded women may be more likely to return to work after having children.

Women who start their families younger may not have the time or financial resources to pursue extended educations, and family responsibilities may prevent them from advancing as quickly in their careers (not as available to work overtime, etc). Therefore, the younger women may not feel the same drive to return to work after having kids.

Plus, women who start families younger by choice have probably identified having children as being a priority in their lives, as opposed to women who actively choose to put off children in favor of their careers (presumably having identified career as a priority).

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:23pm
This is way too general. I had my first child at 34, but it had nothing to do with a career being a higher priority to me than having kids.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:28pm
I had my first at 21 but it was not because children were a high priority in my life. It is because I made a mistake and did not properly use birth control. In other words, I was stupid.

K

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:31pm
>>>Plus, women who start families younger by choice have probably identified having children as being a priority in their lives, as opposed to women who actively choose to put off children in favor of their careers (presumably having identified career as a priority).

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At this point, forming a strong, lasting relationship with my dh is my priority...so that when we do decide to bring children into our family, we will welcome them into as stable & loving a situation as we can possibly provide. Yes, I enjoy my job & my work with DH, but when we have children, THEY will be our priority, though we both will still WAH ft. Waiting to have children until later in life when one is more mature & better able to handle the responsibility of having a child doesn't indicate that those children are less of a priority than a career, to me.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:41pm
Women who goto college and/or graduate school tend to marry later and thus have children later. It is not that having children isnt a priority but that completing their educations is also a priority.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 3:47pm
I'd also like people to post whether they started having kids in the "bracket" in this poll that they selected as best, and if not, why not.

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