What are a sahp or wohp's "Duties"?

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What are a sahp or wohp's "Duties"?
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Thu, 03-04-2010 - 9:09am
Are there any universal "duties" a sahp has or a wohp has?

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Registered: 08-22-2009

Would not the same be true of a WOHP? If they spend the time that they are at home doing the chores then would not they also be putting chores before their children?


If no one can do chores at the same time they take care of their children then how are chores ever going to get done in a household with children?

No one has said that a SAHP should do more because they do not work but because having more time in the house gives them more opportunity to do chores.

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Registered: 02-24-2010

For one thing if this woman runs a daycare she is not a sahm, she's a wahm. So no, things would not apply equally to both women with these 2 different statuses.

The different statuses are not different JUST because of money. If you are running a daycare, then you have more to do than watch your own child(ren) you have more children you are responsible for. More children does take more effort and time for caretaking & that makes it difficult (and maybe impossible) to do the chores during the daycare time. Also a home daycare may have promised her clients that the kids would do certain things over the day--a certain amount of time in playing outside supervised, going on field trips or playground/park time supervised and possibly a certain amount of time devoted to pre-academic learning.

A sahm has not promised these things to anyone as far as I know. She could still do all these things with her own children (or may not be doing it)--less the extra kiddos, which is less work. And if she does not have these extra children that she is paid to care for, her schedule and all of her time in her day is pretty open to what she wants to do & when she wants to do it.

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Taking care of the kids.
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Registered: 05-10-2009

I can only think of one for each.

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Registered: 05-10-2009
If she's running a daycare or other income-producing activity, she isn't a SAHM; she's a WAHM.
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Registered: 10-22-2009

I totally see where you are comming from but i dont see where it seems anyone has said that a sahp isnt working.


If the stay at home parent is home and the WOHP is working, wouldnt it be the sahp

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Registered: 02-06-2009

Then she would be WAH - working at home. Thus, not SAH.

The fact is that you need money to live. If one person is taking on the whole responsibility of getting that money, the other person should take on an equal level of responsibility in other areas. Eg, homecare.

Is it your argument that a SAHP cannot do chores and care for the children during the course of her day?

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Registered: 02-04-2009

Plus, in these debates I frequently see posters not including some of the traditional "Dad"/Male duties. For example, yard work, car repair, bill paying, financial planning.....

Well, in my case (and others as well), living in a condo cuts out the "yard work" chore completely. Car repair is not likely to be a weekly chore--and if it is, both parents have neglected their "time to buy a reliable car" chore. Bill paying is men's work? Since when? More than a few SAHMs on this board include bill paying/household money management among their duties.

As for financial planning? Again, this is more efficiently a job done in partnership with the other. I would no more want to be the only one in a marital relationship in charge of this than I would want my partner to be solely responsible for it. Furthermore, if it requires the same time/attention as most inside-the-house cleaning jobs? Ur doin' it rong.

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Registered: 02-06-2009

In my house, bill paying/finances get more time & attention than the dusting or windows ;oD

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