<<Furthermore, if it requires the same time/attention as most inside-the-house cleaning jobs? Ur doin' it rong. >>
I have to disagree here kitty.
Your finances must be a lot more complicated than ours.
No, I'm not saying the at home parent can't do chores while the kids are around, but that that parent shouldn't be responsible for the majority of the cleaning.
Our bill paying and account management is 10-20 hours per month. We use Quicken and it is a pain to keep up with it, but it provides excellent information for us. The actual bill paying doesn't take too much time as almost all are automatic withdrawals. But the downloads of the monthly bills, the inputs in quicken, the monitoring of bills to make sure they make sense.... The going back and forth with the insurance company and Verizon are some major time sinks. Verizon product is great, but their billing is terrible.
"My point wasn't whether a mom watching kids for money was work at home or stay at home. My point was, if the duties of a mother are paid for, they are suddenly more important that if done for free. Watching your OWN kids doesn't preclude you from doing chores, but getting paid to watch someone else's might. "
I do not think that it has anything to something being more important if someone is paid for it or not. No one gets paid for taking care of their own (whether that be their own children or their own households) because that is their responsibility. Taking care of others (again others children or others households) only become a responsibility if someone is paid for it.
If we choose to hire someone to paint our house it does not become more important than if we choose to do it. But the person that we hire does have more restrictions (as to the quality of work expected and time frame to complete the job) than we do in doing the same job because in taking on that paid job they took on that responsibility.
In taking care of your own children you are free to completely decide how to do so (as long as legal) When being paid to take care of someone elses children you loose some of that freedom not because being paid makes it more important but because you now have to follow the rules of the person paying you.
No, that's okay.....I
It's starting to sound like, at least with young children, that chores can only be done when the kids are sleeping, otherwise one might be ignoring the kids...unless they are part of doing the chores around the house.
We have always taken a family approach to chores, that we all live in the house and it's up to all of us (including the the kids) to preform chores, not just the adults.
I'm not sexist about it, I think the SAHP should take responsibility for the majority of the household chores :O)
There are exceptions, of course, like an SAHP with a severely disabled child to care for. But I think in the huge majority of cases, you can go to the park AND do the vacuuming in the 40hrs a week your spouse is at work.
Now, I should say here that I am not Queen of Housework. Really really not. But if the kitchen is dirty, I consider it my responsibility to clean it, because I'm physically around to do it.
I only do finances once a month (sometimes I have to split it across 2 days, but still only once a month).