What are your thoughts?

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Registered: 11-14-2011
What are your thoughts?
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Tue, 01-24-2012 - 10:35am

I read the article this morning, and thought of this board, and others like it.

http://lifestyle.msn.com/your-life/live-your-dream/article.aspx?cp-documentid=31958038

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 1:26am
If you just mean that you do all the childcare, I don't see why that's a big deal. Personally, I would have found it very difficult to work from home when my kids were young. I would feel too torn. I'm not sure what you mean about your friend.
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Registered: 03-29-1999
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 8:15pm

So your friend who gave up her child and is only a "friend" to this child, provides nothing for the child, either care, income or otherwise, is still a mom; but those of use who WOH, do the childcare, earn the money that provides for the child, kisses the boo-boos, drives them to school, etc are only part-time moms?

This makes no sense.

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Registered: 11-14-2011
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 3:26pm
Now see, this is the problem. This line is what others are finding offensive about your posts.

"I am doing all the mothering."

On this board, and others like it, what you describe is childcare, not necessarily mothering. The mother may be providing the childcare, or someone else can at any given time, regardless of the mother's work status. And, the mother is still doing all of the mothering, even if someone else is providing the childcare.
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Registered: 01-09-2012
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 1:07pm
mom34101 wrote:
You know, I interpreted your post to mean that if you don't have childcare, you're still doing the mom stuff while you're working from home. But this is a slow board.....

Yes, that is what I meant. I work at home and do not have help. When the kids are hungry, I feed them. When they needed a diaper change, I did it. When one fell and cut their knee, I put on the band-aid. I am doing all the mothering.

Maybe I am just organized and my kids are well-behaved, but I am quite able to make it work successfully. Even with a special needs child and no family to help, it all comes together.

My friend gave up a baby for adoption as a teenager. I have not stayed close in touch with her but I do know on the rare occasion I talk with her she still talks about the child, who she is lucky to have been contacted by. She is not the acting mother to this child, just a 'good friend' as far as the child sees but she still gave birth to a child and that made her a mom. Semantics, who cares, I will not take away from the beautiful gift she gave someone and the best gift she gave her child. By her own admission, and it does not take someone smart to see when you see the train-wreck her life is, the child is better off. She is a mom, she just no longer has a child. A birth certificate is just a piece of paper. Just like a custody agreement, if the dad does not have any custody, he is not suddenly not the dad.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 11:13am

It is a little strange when your child's teachers are the same age as your other children.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 10:03am

I have mom friends who are my age but a lot of them are younger than me and older than me too, some I am more close to than others. I just found out my 14 YO DD's good friend's mother is pregnant again, it caught me off guard for a second then I remembered how much younger she is than me, Lol.

 


 


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Registered: 10-23-2001
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 7:18pm
What work do you do from home? Thanks.

 


 


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Registered: 10-23-2001
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 7:15pm
I think there would have to be enough volume of work for a mom to be classified a WAHM. I won't do it and I don't think if you're at home making a livable/supporting income you are a SAHM.. These debates are always the funnest because everybody's definition of working status is so very different, Lol!

 


 


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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 11:53am
Exactly.
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 10:27am

Or a husband.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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