I read the article this morning, and thought of this board, and others like it.
So your friend who gave up her child and is only a "friend" to this child, provides nothing for the child, either care, income or otherwise, is still a mom; but those of use who WOH, do the childcare, earn the money that provides for the child, kisses the boo-boos, drives them to school, etc are only part-time moms? This makes no sense.
mom34101 wrote:You know, I interpreted your post to mean that if you don't have childcare, you're still doing the mom stuff while you're working from home. But this is a slow board.....
Yes, that is what I meant. I work at home and do not have help. When the kids are hungry, I feed them. When they needed a diaper change, I did it. When one fell and cut their knee, I put on the band-aid. I am doing all the mothering.
Maybe I am just organized and my kids are well-behaved, but I am quite able to make it work successfully. Even with a special needs child and no family to help, it all comes together.
My friend gave up a baby for adoption as a teenager. I have not stayed close in touch with her but I do know on the rare occasion I talk with her she still talks about the child, who she is lucky to have been contacted by. She is not the acting mother to this child, just a 'good friend' as far as the child sees but she still gave birth to a child and that made her a mom. Semantics, who cares, I will not take away from the beautiful gift she gave someone and the best gift she gave her child. By her own admission, and it does not take someone smart to see when you see the train-wreck her life is, the child is better off. She is a mom, she just no longer has a child. A birth certificate is just a piece of paper. Just like a custody agreement, if the dad does not have any custody, he is not suddenly not the dad.
It is a little strange when your child's teachers are the same age as your other children.
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
I have mom friends who are my age but a lot of them are younger than me and older than me too, some I am more close to than others. I just found out my 14 YO DD's good friend's mother is pregnant again, it caught me off guard for a second then I remembered how much younger she is than me, Lol.
Or a husband.