What do SAH moms do all day?

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Registered: 12-20-2006
What do SAH moms do all day?
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Sun, 12-05-2010 - 10:59pm

Hi - I am new to this discussion board of stay at home moms.

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 3:16pm

I did not stay home but I had aupairs. I thought that saying home all day would drive them crazy too so I had a schedule for them. At one point I worked 3 days a week - the other 4 I did this schedule and found by 10:00 everybody needed to get out of the house - still my 8 and 10 year old start to get crazy around 10am.

The morning was basically watching some kids show, eating breakfast and reading books.

10 am - activity (library, pool, go for a walk, arts/crafts, open gym at my little gym, community center (had classes for toddlers), parks, play dates with other kids, preschool starting at 3 a couple times a week)

12:00 - lunch

12:30 - nap

2:00 - another activiity same as the ones above.

I was home by 4:00 so they were just rolling in or watching a tv show/reading books/coloring.

I also believed in mental health days I told my aupair to call me if she is just having a bad day and the kids are driving her crazy - she did it once or twice

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 4:57pm

"Being a good parent is not about loving it all the time but understanding what parts you like and what parts you hate and getting a workable schedule."

Well said, and I agree.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 5:08pm

truly, i think you're over-analyzing staying home.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 5:39pm

i always thought having a schedule was ideal and while i do remember meeting moms at the same 9 AM gym class and dropping our kids off at the childwatch at hte same time, a "schedule" wasn't something i was ever faithful to on a regular basis..the funny thing is if a preschool/a school told me they had no structure, no schedule to their day i'd think something was seriously wrong with that setting, LOL.

 

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 5:56pm

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 7:24pm
I think of a schedule in terms of *what comes next*, not necessarily some time frame that we must fit everything into.

For example, after breakfast, we get dressed and go to the library (or the park, or whatever). Then we come home and eat lunch, and after lunch we lay down and take a nap, then have free play, then a snack.....

The actual time of these things could vary from day to day, but there was a loose plan of what comes next, that was always helpful for me and for my children.
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Registered: 04-16-2010
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 7:25pm
I thought that you were working part time, now. Was I mistaken?
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 12-06-2010 - 7:27pm

i think a groove, a routine really started to develop when my kids started school.

 

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Tue, 12-07-2010 - 1:43am

Our schedule was for Erica.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Tue, 12-07-2010 - 3:31am

FWIW, I do not think you are over-thinking this. It is your life and you should spend some time working out how you want to do the SAH thing, or whether you want to do it at all.

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