What do SAH moms do all day?

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Registered: 12-20-2006
What do SAH moms do all day?
Sun, 12-05-2010 - 10:59pm

Hi - I am new to this discussion board of stay at home moms.


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Registered: 06-21-2011
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 5:13pm

I am with you...I would go *bonkers*

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 5:15pm

raised is past tense there, are you done raising your 7 YOs and 6 YO?


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Registered: 05-13-2009
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 5:49pm

Grammar lesson of the day:

I believe the poster may be using the present perfect tense. It describes an action that happened at an indefinite time in the past or that began in the past and continues in the present.This tense is formed by using has/have with the past participle of the verb. Most past participles end in -ed.

So the poster in no way implies that she is done raising her children.

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 10:12pm
And I'm sure that if we wanted to start our own business, she'd have the perfect opportunity for us.
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Registered: 01-21-2011
Tue, 06-21-2011 - 10:33pm
I'm not a stay-at-home mom, so I can't comment very well on what I'd do if I was. When I stayed home, I actually was a working mom - I had to make a full-time income from the time my second was 4 days old - I worked from my hospital bed and I don't recommend that.

If you don't have to work, you don't have to. You might volunteer at your child's school and get adult interaction that way. You might also look to see if there is a Mother's Day Out program at the local churches where you're moving. I love ours - my boys went from 9 - 2 and it was less than $600 per month for both. You might also be able to work at the program and enjoy adults without having to be truly separated from your kids.
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Registered: 08-24-2006
Wed, 06-22-2011 - 1:27am
You might want to try to find PT or volunteer work at least. I had depression too and the years I SAH were very tough on me. I withdrew and completely isolated myself. I honestly think my DD would have been better off in day care. I wasn't capable of interacting with her as much as she needed. Going back to school and then work made a huge difference.
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Registered: 05-03-2007
Wed, 06-22-2011 - 10:00am
Hi Alicia,
This thread has grown quite long, so I hope I'm not repeating what someone else has said... I just wanted to point out that even if you don't make enough money to cover childcare, that doesn't mean you shouldn't get a job. This is assuming two things: one, your husband can help cover costs with his new job, and two, you really enjoy working. Keep in mind that even if you don't make enough to cover childcare now, that doesn't mean you won't in the future. When you take time off, you're giving up not just current income, but also income potential - the extra income you get from raises and promotions while working.

I just wanted to bring up this point since you seem genuinely happy working, and it would be a shame to feel like you're being forced out of the workplace. Good luck to you, whatever you decide to do!
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Wed, 06-22-2011 - 11:28am

I think that you mean your post to go to the op.

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Registered: 02-24-2001
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 1:07am

I cannot get everything done. If the children are gone all day, even if I am working all day, I am revived and ready to go when they come home and they are winding down for the day. But, as a AHM, well, I am with them moment up to moment down and everything in between. I cannot even go to the doctor, or store, or bathroom, or lunch, without the children. I have to plan things for them and keep things under control all day long, every day, day after day after day. And nothing seems planned anymore. Not like you can say you will eat at this time, potty at that time, do this at that time, because things just happen, all the time. Even a phone conversation is hard to schedule.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 10:42am

I always find this a kind of puzzling argument from SAHMs. I worked part time when my DD was under a year, and had a three month maternity leave with my son. I'm also home alone with the kids on the weekends fairly often. I have never, ever had trouble finding time to go to bathroom or to eat lunch or to take a shower. Surely, you can find something for your kids to do that occupies their attention for the 5 minutes it takes to go to the bathroom or the 15 minutes to eat lunch or take a shower. I mean, can't you eat lunch while the kids are eating? And what about nap time? My kids often take naps staggered through the afternoon, but I can at least count on the older one to sit and watch Dora for 30 minutes while the younger one is sleeping so I can shower.

And when they were absolutely too young to leave alone while I showered, I would sit them in their high chairs outside the bathroom door with a toy on the tray.