What do SAHMs do all day?

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What do SAHMs do all day?
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Mon, 10-14-2013 - 3:59pm

It was a question such as this that prompted  the male author to write the following article in the Huffington post.  He is tired of working moms of putting down his wife because she is SAH: 

Look, I don't cast aspersions on women who work outside of the home. I understand that many of them are forced into it because they are single mothers, or because one income simply isn't enough to meet the financial needs of their family. Or they just choose to work because that's what they want to do. Fine. I also understand that most "professional" women aren't rude, pompous and smug, like the two I met recently.

But I don't want to sing Kumbaya right now. I want to kick our backwards, materialistic society in the shins and say, "GET YOUR FREAKING HEAD ON STRAIGHT, SOCIETY."

This conversation shouldn't be necessary. I shouldn't need to explain why it's insane for anyone -- particularly other women -- to have such contempt and hostility for "stay at home" mothers. Are we really so shallow? Are we really so confused? Are we really the first culture in the history of mankind to fail to grasp the glory and seriousness of motherhood? The pagans deified Maternity and turned it into a goddess. We've gone the other direction; we treat it like a disease or an obstacle.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-walsh/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-_b_4086126.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular
I also found the last couple of paragraphs interesting, he was talking about how it doesn't matter who is busier and why we try to keep score.
Any thoughts on the article?

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 4:54pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">My older son has cable at his condo.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Condo and college? Very nice. </span></strong></p>

Not really.  He's renting a four-bedroom condo with three other people. 

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 4:55pm

I think NOBODY contributes some much needed comic relief!  And reminds us of the fact that it's useless to argue things no one has said.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 4:55pm
Condo and college? Very nice. </span></strong></p>

Not really.  He's renting a four-bedroom condo with three other people. 

Not really what? That he is going to college?

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 4:57pm

Netflix does not require cable or satellite or antenna tv service.  It requires only one of the following: a DVD player or an internet-enabled device.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 4:57pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">Well, that's you.  And you have TV service.  And that's cool.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">That's me, what? That I feel kids need a break and not be so busy all the time? What were they doing to be so busy? I guess you posting on messageboards makes you too busy to sit and watch TV then.</span></strong></p>

Why do you assume they are so busy and why do you assume that tv = break for anyone other than your family?   Can you not imagine anything other than busy or watching tv?  Do you not realize that there so many other things than just those two things?

Take last night for example...we were all home in the evening, not busy outside the home and I'm the only one who watched any tv. 

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 4:57pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">They were doing all sorts of things; school, music, sports, hobbies, church activities, volunteer activities, chores, etc.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>Hmmm..ok...same as any other kid who also watches TV. Gotcha.</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I am not too busy to watch TV if I wanted to watch TV.  I just don't really like TV or movies, so I don't watch them much.</p><p style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"><strong>There has NEVER been anything on TV or movies that you found enjoyable? You would rather go online and argue with strangers? </strong></p>

I have enjoyed television shows and movies from time to time.  Just not very often, and not enough to pay for television when I will maybe sit down and watch something an average of once a month.

I would generally rather talk to people on message boards than watch television, yes.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 4:57pm

Netflix does not require cable or satellite or antenna tv service.  It requires only one of the following: a DVD player or an internet-enabled device.

Gotcha. We have both. Thanks Laughing

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 4:59pm

Why do you assume they are so busy and why do you assume that tv = break for anyone other than your family?   Can you not imagine anything other than busy or watching tv?  Do you not realize that there so many other things than just those two things?

Take last night for example...we were all home in the evening, not busy outside the home and I'm the only one who watched any tv. 

Yep, there are many other things than TV and I am aware of that and do many other things. 

Her argument was being too "busy". I guess I see where her idea of "busy" is though when a messageboard, arguing over stupid stuff with strangers is a better outlet to be "busy" than to emerging yourself in a good show or movie or documentary, etc. BAER

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 4:59pm

pumpkinangel wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswife</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Well, that's you.  And you have TV service.  And that's cool.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;That's me, what? That I feel kids need a break and not be so busy all the time? What were they doing to be so busy? I guess you posting on messageboards makes you too busy to sit and watch TV then.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Why do you assume they are so busy and why do you assume that tv = break for anyone other than your family?   Can you not imagine anything other than busy or watching tv?  Do you not realize that there so many other things than just those two things?</p><p>Take last night for example...we were all home in the evening, not busy outside the home and I'm the only one who watched any tv. </p>

Yeah, last night when I got back from church we sat in the den for awhile and DH read a mystery novel and I sorted out a bunch of photographs that I inherited from my mother and I've been slowly organizing when I have time.   Oh, and I brushed the dog.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 5:00pm

I have enjoyed television shows and movies from time to time.  Just not very often, and not enough to pay for television when I will maybe sit down and watch something an average of once a month.

How so if you don't have cable and never had it?

I would generally rather talk to people on message boards than watch television, yes.

That really broadens the mind-NOT lol

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