What do SAHMs do all day?

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What do SAHMs do all day?
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Mon, 10-14-2013 - 3:59pm

It was a question such as this that prompted  the male author to write the following article in the Huffington post.  He is tired of working moms of putting down his wife because she is SAH: 

Look, I don't cast aspersions on women who work outside of the home. I understand that many of them are forced into it because they are single mothers, or because one income simply isn't enough to meet the financial needs of their family. Or they just choose to work because that's what they want to do. Fine. I also understand that most "professional" women aren't rude, pompous and smug, like the two I met recently.

But I don't want to sing Kumbaya right now. I want to kick our backwards, materialistic society in the shins and say, "GET YOUR FREAKING HEAD ON STRAIGHT, SOCIETY."

This conversation shouldn't be necessary. I shouldn't need to explain why it's insane for anyone -- particularly other women -- to have such contempt and hostility for "stay at home" mothers. Are we really so shallow? Are we really so confused? Are we really the first culture in the history of mankind to fail to grasp the glory and seriousness of motherhood? The pagans deified Maternity and turned it into a goddess. We've gone the other direction; we treat it like a disease or an obstacle.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-walsh/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-_b_4086126.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular
I also found the last couple of paragraphs interesting, he was talking about how it doesn't matter who is busier and why we try to keep score.
Any thoughts on the article?

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 7:47pm

] </p><p>One of our "treats" when the kids are gone is to eat dinner on the couch, in front of the tv.  *guilty, evil laugh*</p><p> </p>[/quote]

We do that 2-3 days a week. 

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 7:49pm
Why wouldn't you pay for cable for the family... Isn't your DS still part of your family?

 


 


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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 7:50pm
The family doesn't want cable.
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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 7:53pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">rollmops2009</em> wrote:</div>I can't say that I have ever been at a social event that involved TV watching.</blockquote></p><p>Is that a sign of a superior intellect?</p>

or appearances...

 


 


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Registered: 01-08-2009
Thu, 10-17-2013 - 7:56pm
Jamblessed, I find it very odd that whenever someone chooses to do something differently than you, they are doing it "for appearances." Appearances to whom?
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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 7:59pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>You may be onto something... I have heard wonderful things about St.Louis University but that's a private college and you've got to be really rich to go there ;-)</p>

Yes and no, SLU is a good school and a private college but you don't have to be really rich to go there.  

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 8:02pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;rollmops2009&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;I can't say that I have ever been at a social event that involved TV watching.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Is that a sign of a superior intellect?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>or appearances...</p>

Why can't it just be different, why can't someone do something different with you claiming it's for all the wrong reasons?   Really need to move past differences in others...

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 8:07pm
I gotta admit, PKA, I do not understand why people having different preferences and lifestyles is so bothersome, or a cause for negative judgements. I'm glad you and Sav still talk to me even though I don't like to watch cooking shows and am indifferent about baseball!
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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 8:20pm

bordwithyou wrote:
I gotta admit, PKA, I do not understand why people having different preferences and lifestyles is so bothersome, or a cause for negative judgements. I'm glad you and Sav still talk to me even though I don't like to watch cooking shows and am indifferent about baseball!

And I know next to nothing and care next to nothing about astronauts.  And I SUCK at history.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 8:26pm
Sushi and snark. Never underestimate the power of snark.

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