What do SAHMs do all day?

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What do SAHMs do all day?
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Mon, 10-14-2013 - 3:59pm

It was a question such as this that prompted  the male author to write the following article in the Huffington post.  He is tired of working moms of putting down his wife because she is SAH: 

Look, I don't cast aspersions on women who work outside of the home. I understand that many of them are forced into it because they are single mothers, or because one income simply isn't enough to meet the financial needs of their family. Or they just choose to work because that's what they want to do. Fine. I also understand that most "professional" women aren't rude, pompous and smug, like the two I met recently.

But I don't want to sing Kumbaya right now. I want to kick our backwards, materialistic society in the shins and say, "GET YOUR FREAKING HEAD ON STRAIGHT, SOCIETY."

This conversation shouldn't be necessary. I shouldn't need to explain why it's insane for anyone -- particularly other women -- to have such contempt and hostility for "stay at home" mothers. Are we really so shallow? Are we really so confused? Are we really the first culture in the history of mankind to fail to grasp the glory and seriousness of motherhood? The pagans deified Maternity and turned it into a goddess. We've gone the other direction; we treat it like a disease or an obstacle.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-walsh/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-_b_4086126.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular
I also found the last couple of paragraphs interesting, he was talking about how it doesn't matter who is busier and why we try to keep score.
Any thoughts on the article?

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 3:21pm

So...that's a no, you don't want to discuss the topic of the differences between a 14-15 and a 17-18 year old?  You want to discuss me?  Can we break this pattern, ever?

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 3:22pm

I read them PKA and you twist everything so it turns around to make ME look bad. Sorry that you have nothing else to do. No family to "reconnect" with today? I have some laundry to do and football to watch so have yourself a lovely day. When you change your mind and want to debate something or not keep ignoring what I say and try to turn it around to what YOU want it to say, then let me know. 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 10-20-2013 - 3:26pm

Here it is again...

Parenting a 15 year old.

I was responsible for their needs. I had to make sure there was food in the house for them to eat, that they had proper clothing for their needs etc.

If they decided to no longer attend school their father and I would get a call.  We could be held legally responsible o make sure they did attend. 

Anything that needed  an adult signiture had to be signed by their father or I, insurance issues, permission slips, leaving school early because of illness etc. 

I knew their schedules.  I knew when to expect them to be home and when they would not be.

If they needed transportation to go somewhere than I or another adult would have to provide it.

They had to ask  permission to do things,  not as tight of reins as when they were younger, but not the freedom of an adult.

Parenting a 19 year old. 

I was not responsible for their needs.  They bought their own clothing (with the exception of presents),  since they were away at college for much of the year they were taking care of their own food needs. 

If they decided to no longer attend school, the school would not contact us.  We had no rsponsibilties in the matter.  

Their father and I could  not sign anything for them.   

I did not know their schedules (unless they chose to share it with me).  I had no expectation of when they would be home or out.

If they needed transporation to go somewhere I did not have to drive them,   I just had to loan them my car if they had none of their own.

They did not have to ask permission to do things. They made their own decisions.  They would sometimes ask for advice but not permission. 


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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 3:30pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p>I read them PKA and you twist everything so it turns around to make ME look bad. Sorry that you have nothing else to do. No family to "reconnect" with today? I have some laundry to do and football to watch so have yourself a lovely day. When you change your mind and want to debate something or not keep ignoring what I say and try to turn it around to what YOU want it to say, then let me know. </p>

You read them, and then responded to something I didn't even say?  But you know, I don't have to twist or say anything to do that...and the attacks again.  Peace to you morty, I posted the subject again, hopefully you break the pattern of attacking me and turn back to the conversation.  

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 6:12am
Ouch, You're rehashing something morty hasn't said. That's big. I hope you're ok, marla.

 

 

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 6:13am

mortyswife wrote:
<p>I read them PKA and you twist everything so it turns around to make ME look bad. Sorry that you have nothing else to do. No family to "reconnect" with today? I have some laundry to do and football to watch so have yourself a lovely day. When you change your mind and want to debate something or not keep ignoring what I say and try to turn it around to what YOU want it to say, then let me know. </p>

She wants you to concede to what another poster wrote, Is that the ten commandments for raising kids or something?  Lol!  Yea, What a strange way to debate, to push and push but that must come naturally as she's admitted she nags.  Hope to "see" you soon. 

 

 

 

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Tue, 10-22-2013 - 10:04am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswife</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;I read them PKA and you twist everything so it turns around to make ME look bad. Sorry that you have nothing else to do. No family to "reconnect" with today? I have some laundry to do and football to watch so have yourself a lovely day. When you change your mind and want to debate something or not keep ignoring what I say and try to turn it around to what YOU want it to say, then let me know. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>She wants you to concede to what another poster wrote, Is that the ten commandments for raising kids or something?  Lol!  Yea, What a strange way to debate, to push and push but that must come naturally as she's admitted she nags.  Hope to "see" you soon. </p><p> </p>

No Jams, I wanted morty to debate the topic, shocking I know for either of you as I noticed that you also declined to debate the topic and instead attack a poster.   One day, I hope you can move past my parenting choices.  I can't imagine being so wrapped up in a strangers parenting choices.  Peace.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 02-14-2014 - 4:58pm
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