What do SAHMs do all day?

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What do SAHMs do all day?
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Mon, 10-14-2013 - 3:59pm

It was a question such as this that prompted  the male author to write the following article in the Huffington post.  He is tired of working moms of putting down his wife because she is SAH: 

Look, I don't cast aspersions on women who work outside of the home. I understand that many of them are forced into it because they are single mothers, or because one income simply isn't enough to meet the financial needs of their family. Or they just choose to work because that's what they want to do. Fine. I also understand that most "professional" women aren't rude, pompous and smug, like the two I met recently.

But I don't want to sing Kumbaya right now. I want to kick our backwards, materialistic society in the shins and say, "GET YOUR FREAKING HEAD ON STRAIGHT, SOCIETY."

This conversation shouldn't be necessary. I shouldn't need to explain why it's insane for anyone -- particularly other women -- to have such contempt and hostility for "stay at home" mothers. Are we really so shallow? Are we really so confused? Are we really the first culture in the history of mankind to fail to grasp the glory and seriousness of motherhood? The pagans deified Maternity and turned it into a goddess. We've gone the other direction; we treat it like a disease or an obstacle.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-walsh/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-_b_4086126.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular
I also found the last couple of paragraphs interesting, he was talking about how it doesn't matter who is busier and why we try to keep score.
Any thoughts on the article?

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 8:25pm

nevermind, lol

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:25pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>  My kids took lessons/rode for awhile.  Then when my kid was about twelve, and beginning to compete, the instructor tells me, "He really needs his own horse.   One can only go "so far" on school horses."  My response:  "Then that's how far he's going."  He had no more than a passing desire for his own horse, and his father and I had no interest whatsoever in becoming horse owners.  I still don't know how he talked us into a dog.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Very wise.  If they are really interested in pursuing it, they will find a way.  A LOT of moms here drop their kids off in daycare or school while waltzing in wearing their jodhpurs. @@  Of course, they're not even going riding until after the kids get home, lol!  It's all a little transparent here. <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif" alt="Smile" title="Smile" border="0" /></p>

Lol thardy, moms in their jodpurs!  DD1 has never owned a horse but knows ten times+ more than me always b/c of all the training she's had/is getting.  One of the trainers at the stables she rides also oaches the equestrian team at an area college, She's a sweet girl and doesn't even own her own but teaches.  Maybe that's the extent she'l go?  Hey, at least she's happy! 

 


 


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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:27pm

Good luck on Saturday, fingers are crossed for you and your DD. 

 


 


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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 8:46am

mortyswife wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px">You and you dh and/or kids don't have cell phones?</p><p style="font-size:13px"><strong>One home phone (since that is what I thought we were originally speaking of)-dh, myself and dd have cellphones, ds does not.</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px">Man, I was on a party line as a kid.  Our ring was two shorts. My grandmother's ring was two longs. The neighbor's ring was one short/one long. </p><p style="font-size:13px"><strong>Nope, did not have that when I was a kid. I got a phone in my bedroom, still the same # as the home phone though when I was about 15.</strong></p>

So cool.  Growing up, I was the only kid in our family who got a phone in my bedroom!  I'd had surgery and needed the rest, the easy contact with friends.  Supposedly! Wink

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 8:48am

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I didn't "conclude" she had one shared bathroom and one shared phone.  I asked, and that's what she said.  We asked about cell phones but <strong>she hasn't responded yet.</strong></span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">I was busy with a field trip to the Bronx Zoo today <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" border="0" /></span></strong></p>

That must have been a quiet bus ride?  Lots of kids reading, studying for their next test, lol!  You're a good momma.  How was it?

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 8:58am

bordwithyou wrote:
Yes, I was thinking of definition #1; it is clear you are thinking of definition #2.

That doesn't make sense at all.  You meet the definition of having a "television."

There's a cord cutting movement where people stop cable and satellite but can waste endless, mindless hours online on their employer's computer, on Netflix, on other services.  It's cheaper, especially the savings for the endless time some employees apparently waste on their employer's computers watching video and programming online.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 9:00am

mortyswife wrote:
<p>BAER</p>

It's ridiculous, isn't it?

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 9:02am

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;savcal2011&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;mortyswife&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;gt;One shared phone and one shared bathroom&amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;You and you dh and/or kids don't have cell phones?&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt; &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Man, I was on a party line as a kid.  Our ring was two shorts. My grandmother's ring was two longs. The neighbor's ring was one short/one long. &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;errr.  Maybe that was also partly because of where you lived. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Oh, the party line thing was completely a rural/available technology thing.  Totally.  I just thought it was an insteresting addition to the conversation.</p>

It depends on who one gets to share the line with.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 9:04am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>Yes, I was thinking of definition #1; it is clear you are thinking of definition #2.</blockquote></p><p>That doesn't make sense at all.  You meet the definition of having a "television."</p><p>There's a cord cutting movement where people stop cable and satellite but can waste endless, mindless hours online on their employer's computer, on Netflix, on other services.  It's cheaper, especially the savings for the endless time some employees apparently waste on their employer's computers watching video and programming online.</p>

D'oh, There's no nobility in having no "television" when you spend a whole lot of your time on message boards.

 


 


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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 9:05am

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>We have a television for watching movies only. We get no broadcasts.</blockquote></p><p>The Girl's boyfriend doesn't even have that. They watch movies on a projector and screen, lol.</p>

OMG....

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