What do SAHMs do all day?

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What do SAHMs do all day?
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Mon, 10-14-2013 - 3:59pm

It was a question such as this that prompted  the male author to write the following article in the Huffington post.  He is tired of working moms of putting down his wife because she is SAH: 

Look, I don't cast aspersions on women who work outside of the home. I understand that many of them are forced into it because they are single mothers, or because one income simply isn't enough to meet the financial needs of their family. Or they just choose to work because that's what they want to do. Fine. I also understand that most "professional" women aren't rude, pompous and smug, like the two I met recently.

But I don't want to sing Kumbaya right now. I want to kick our backwards, materialistic society in the shins and say, "GET YOUR FREAKING HEAD ON STRAIGHT, SOCIETY."

This conversation shouldn't be necessary. I shouldn't need to explain why it's insane for anyone -- particularly other women -- to have such contempt and hostility for "stay at home" mothers. Are we really so shallow? Are we really so confused? Are we really the first culture in the history of mankind to fail to grasp the glory and seriousness of motherhood? The pagans deified Maternity and turned it into a goddess. We've gone the other direction; we treat it like a disease or an obstacle.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-walsh/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-_b_4086126.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular
I also found the last couple of paragraphs interesting, he was talking about how it doesn't matter who is busier and why we try to keep score.
Any thoughts on the article?

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 12:13pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Since you were confused earlier about what I meant by nasty comments about me, Morty, this one is an example of a gratuitously nasty comment.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Not nasty Bord, just telling the truth, as I don't lie. You can correct me if I am wrong though.</span></strong></p>

So based on your logic, since you were also posting at the same time, that "truth" also applies to you, do you not realize that?

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 12:12pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Lol.  I'm not over what positive contributions must look like to her, obviously it still consists of tearing somebody else down. </p>

Complaing about bad behavior in another while exhibiting that same behavior.  Fyi, I don't think this can be considered positive.

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 12:11pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px">You really need to slow down and read what you are replying to. </p><p style="font-size:13px"><strong>She obviously needs something to do since there is no TV to watch and no human IRL to talk to. </strong></p>

You said you didn't know what she was talking about in regards to mean things...here is one of them.

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 12:10pm

bordwithyou wrote:
"I have plenty of positive contributions and make them, then get torn down for being all rainbows and sunshine.... Shaking head, sorry I don't call my life difficult bord, friendships alone to you are." Claiming your life is really good and other poster's lives suck is not exactly what I had in mind with the "positive contribution" idea.

I find it interesting that no one has responded to the differences between a 14/15 and 18/19 but instead have been nagging you about the number of posts...while posting.  I think one has to be blind to their own actions to not see the double standard there.

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 11:59am

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">What other name have I had, Morty? I can't remember any other, but it's been over fifteen years, I could have forgotten one.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Sorry you forgot them already and the ones that you have used, I can assure, the majority of the posts have been within the last year or so, so NOT 58 months.</span></strong></p>

You say they exsist, you have been nagging about this for a number of posts now...why don't you just post them, if you are so sure?

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 11:59am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><em><span style="font-size:13px">I know I know, the "lies" are like a sink hole b/c when there's nothing left to debate that is what they resort too. It's a common pattern and it's mean.</span></em></p><div><p><em><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Yep. I am constantly told I lie. I have proven that I don't lie but I guess it is harder to face the truth for some.</span></strong></em></p></div><p> Honestly, I can't remember the last time I called somebody a liar (irl or here), it's childish really, liar liar pants on fire.   I'm working at ignoring the posters that really don't have much to contribute than that instead, Yay me!  :-)</p><p> </p>

How do you ignore your own posts?

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 11:58am

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Honestly morty, I can't remember the last time I called somebody a liar, it's childish actually, liar liar pants on fire... I'm working at ignoring the posters that really don't have much to contribute than that.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Yep. You KNOW that some posters lie right through their teeth. We don't call them on it. I get called on everything and YOU know that I don't lie. You see the same things on my fb.</span></strong></p>

Examples?

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 11:58am

jamblessedthree wrote:
I know I know, the "lies" are like a sink hole b/c when there's nothing left to debate that is what they resort too. It's a common pattern and it's mean.

Why isn't the lies about the post mean and a common pattern?  Oh wait, I forgot...bias debating.

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 11:57am

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">No, Historian Mom is my Banshee name. Lois15354 was my original I-Village handle, but I got tired of typing the numbers and I switched about five years ago.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">So you are trying to say you have only had TWO names on ivillage. Not true.</span></strong></p>

More harassing...

PumpkinAngel

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Sun, 10-20-2013 - 11:56am

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I forgot you dint understand averages. Never mind.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:x-small"><span>It doesn't work that way when you have used multiple names over the last 58 months. Talk about not understanding. lolol. </span></span></strong></p>

I tihnk you are confusing yourself with bord, you have had multiple names over the last few years, bord has had the one.

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