What do SAHMs do all day?

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What do SAHMs do all day?
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Mon, 10-14-2013 - 3:59pm

It was a question such as this that prompted  the male author to write the following article in the Huffington post.  He is tired of working moms of putting down his wife because she is SAH: 

Look, I don't cast aspersions on women who work outside of the home. I understand that many of them are forced into it because they are single mothers, or because one income simply isn't enough to meet the financial needs of their family. Or they just choose to work because that's what they want to do. Fine. I also understand that most "professional" women aren't rude, pompous and smug, like the two I met recently.

But I don't want to sing Kumbaya right now. I want to kick our backwards, materialistic society in the shins and say, "GET YOUR FREAKING HEAD ON STRAIGHT, SOCIETY."

This conversation shouldn't be necessary. I shouldn't need to explain why it's insane for anyone -- particularly other women -- to have such contempt and hostility for "stay at home" mothers. Are we really so shallow? Are we really so confused? Are we really the first culture in the history of mankind to fail to grasp the glory and seriousness of motherhood? The pagans deified Maternity and turned it into a goddess. We've gone the other direction; we treat it like a disease or an obstacle.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-walsh/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-_b_4086126.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular
I also found the last couple of paragraphs interesting, he was talking about how it doesn't matter who is busier and why we try to keep score.
Any thoughts on the article?

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 11:52am

Four televisions savcal, wow!  That's a lot. 

 

 

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 11:53am
I do not see what "greater good" I am projecting by not having something I don't want. I mainly play on the computer when I am not with my family, such as after my husband has gone to bed but before my son gets home from work, or in the mornings after DH had gone to worn but before DS wakes up.
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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 11:59am
Savcal said four first, you lose. Haha... As a side my sister has a tv in her kitchen, What's with that all you multiple tv people.. I'd prefer cooking to music than tv, JMO/E.

 

 

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:04pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">mortyswife</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Not being competitive. Just correcting a mis-statement by thardy.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&gt;Why? Did it bother you that she might have thought you only have ONE TV? lol.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>No, it's just incorrect.  There are so many false statements (or just plain made up lies) about me on this board that when i get a chance to correct one, I will.  </p>

Poor thing, Calling others liars is not correcting it's accusing. 

 

 

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:18pm

See, televisions are an expense I'm not willing to pay much for and the latest ones are those fancy flat screen kind that I do find ridiculously expensive.  But hey more power to your friend mops that spends that for four.  I won't take money risks with contractors either. 

 

 

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:26pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>See, televisions are an expense I'm not willing to pay much for and the latest ones are those fancy flat screen kind that I do find ridiculously expensive.  But hey more power to your friend mops that spends that for four.  I won't take money risks with contractors either. </p>

Good heavens, are you still bringing that up?  How uncharitable.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:27pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;mortyswife&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;Not being competitive. Just correcting a mis-statement by thardy.&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;gt;Why? Did it bother you that she might have thought you only have ONE TV? lol.&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;No, it's just incorrect.  There are so many false statements (or just plain made up lies) about me on this board that when i get a chance to correct one, I will.  &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Poor thing, Calling others liars is not correcting it's accusing. </p>

She wasn't calling Thardy a liar in this case, she was correcting a misapprehension.   She's right, though, in other cases, there are lots of deliberate lies brandished about on this board.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:31pm

bordwithyou wrote:
She wasn't calling Thardy a liar in this case, she was correcting a misapprehension.   She's right, though, in other cases, there are lots of deliberate lies brandished about on this board.</p>

Yep. I even said "misstatement" because I don't think Thardy had any ill will or intent to state it wrong - I think she was just mistaken or misremembered.   And yep, there have been a lot of deliberate statements made that were known to be wrong.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:41pm

bordwithyou wrote:
No, really, Thardy, you are right. It isn't that big of a deal. I happen not to like to watch television. That's certainly not a preference worth other people keeping track of over the years, I agree.

Fine, then I'll remove it from my master flow chart.  'Cause that's what I said....Not, lol!  Ermahgerd.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:45pm

<<Nope, did not have that when I was a kid. I got a phone in my bedroom, still the same # as the home phone though when I was about 15.>>

I remember when I got a phone in my room!  It was for my 15th birthday I think, blue princess phone, lol.


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