What do SAHMs do all day?

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What do SAHMs do all day?
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Mon, 10-14-2013 - 3:59pm

It was a question such as this that prompted  the male author to write the following article in the Huffington post.  He is tired of working moms of putting down his wife because she is SAH: 

Look, I don't cast aspersions on women who work outside of the home. I understand that many of them are forced into it because they are single mothers, or because one income simply isn't enough to meet the financial needs of their family. Or they just choose to work because that's what they want to do. Fine. I also understand that most "professional" women aren't rude, pompous and smug, like the two I met recently.

But I don't want to sing Kumbaya right now. I want to kick our backwards, materialistic society in the shins and say, "GET YOUR FREAKING HEAD ON STRAIGHT, SOCIETY."

This conversation shouldn't be necessary. I shouldn't need to explain why it's insane for anyone -- particularly other women -- to have such contempt and hostility for "stay at home" mothers. Are we really so shallow? Are we really so confused? Are we really the first culture in the history of mankind to fail to grasp the glory and seriousness of motherhood? The pagans deified Maternity and turned it into a goddess. We've gone the other direction; we treat it like a disease or an obstacle.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-walsh/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-_b_4086126.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular
I also found the last couple of paragraphs interesting, he was talking about how it doesn't matter who is busier and why we try to keep score.
Any thoughts on the article?

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:46pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">If you all have cell phones you are hardly making do with one telephone. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">True but if we were going back to when we were kids, we still only have one landline # in our home AND one physical phone.</span></strong></p><p><span style="font-size:13px">We have no landline and no televisions at all, but I think we are unusual in that. I think most middle class Americans have most of the things I listed.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">You have no TV or just no cable? </span></strong></p>

Doesn't one have to have cable, dish or something to receive a tv signal?  Otherwise, it's just a monitor type thing, at least in my area.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:50pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Psst morty, DD1 woke up extra early this morning.. When I asked her what the hurry was she said she needed to be at school by 7 for a practice psat..... OMG, I never knew but I got her up there on time, that's my mommy contribution for the day, Lol.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Bawahhaaa....Saturday is the day for us lol</span></strong></p>

I asked my son about the test, he said it went pretty well...except for the math section.  It was easier at first and then near the end, there were problems as a sophomore (early in the year for algebra II)  that were quite advanced.  PLAN test is later this month for him too, that's the practice test for the ACT.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:50pm

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;jamblessedthree&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;savcal2011&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;amp;gt;mortyswife&amp;amp;lt;/em&amp;amp;gt; wrote:&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;amp;amp;gt;Not being competitive. Just correcting a mis-statement by thardy.&amp;amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;amp;amp;gt;Why? Did it bother you that she might have thought you only have ONE TV? lol.&amp;amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;No, it's just incorrect.  There are so many false statements (or just plain made up lies) about me on this board that when i get a chance to correct one, I will.  &amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Poor thing, Calling others liars is not correcting it's accusing. &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;She wasn't calling Thardy a liar in this case, she was correcting a misapprehension.   She's right, though, in other cases, there are lots of deliberate lies brandished about on this board.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>That's nice you speak for your friend too, Why is it you call others out when we do?  Thanks for clearing that up if you can.....  And that's no lie.. </p>

I don't.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:50pm

bordwithyou wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;savcal2011&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;mortyswife&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;amp;gt;Not being competitive. Just correcting a mis-statement by thardy.&amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;amp;gt;Why? Did it bother you that she might have thought you only have ONE TV? lol.&amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;No, it's just incorrect.  There are so many false statements (or just plain made up lies) about me on this board that when i get a chance to correct one, I will.  &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Poor thing, Calling others liars is not correcting it's accusing. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>She wasn't calling Thardy a liar in this case, she was correcting a misapprehension.   She's right, though, in other cases, there are lots of deliberate lies brandished about on this board.</p>

That's nice you speak for your friend too, Why is it you call others out when we do?  And that's no lie...

 

 

 

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:52pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>  D'oh, There's no nobility in having no "television" when you spend a whole lot of your time on message boards.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>That's the impression I was getting, so I'm glad I'm not alone!  Heck, if you and I could go into "work" and get our employer/the taxpayer/ the encumbered college student, pay for all of our time online, why not!  ;)   It's always funny how these iVillage boards come to a screeching halt on weekends!</p>

Ah yes, they just close their doors on the weekends.  lol...I love your view down the rabbit hole!

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:52pm

savcal2011 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;bordwithyou&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;"D'oh, There's no nobility in having no "television" when you spend a whole lot of time on message boards. " Why would you even bring up the idea of "nobility" connected to whether one has television service or not? What had "nobility" got to do with it? That seems like a silly connection to make.&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;For me, that's been the tone of your anti-t.v. posts over the years here.  Not so in the tone of Savcal or the others who don't have more than 1 television.  At least 2 of us noticed it, it's not that big of a deal.  We get the whole free internet usage at work thing.  &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>FTR, I have way more than one television. We have four actually ...</p>

Um...congratulations?  Your clearly not seeing nobility in having just 1 t.v. has been in your post over the years.  Unless you're now claiming nobility in the party line, no/little t.v. growing up.

savcal2011 wrote:
  I think I agree.  We didn't have HD tvs, or Xbox games, or cell phones, or SUVs "way back when" -- but that wasn't because we weren't materialistic. It's because those things didn't exist.  It was materialistic to have a tv, or wear a strand of pearls, etc, etc.  The importance of possession was still there -- it's just the possessions that were different.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:53pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">That must have been a quiet bus ride?  Lots of kids reading, studying for their next test, lol!  You're a good momma.  How was it?</span></p><p><span style="font-size:small"><strong><span style="text-align:left">Not really, this was for my 5th grader. We had a really great time. Lots of pics taken for their yearbook <img src="/forums/sites/all/libraries/tinymce/jscripts/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" border="0" /></span></strong></span></p>

That's great.

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:56pm
Lol thardy, it's important working moms get the last word here...

 


 


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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:56pm

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;thardy2001&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;bordwithyou&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;"D'oh, There's no nobility in having no "television" when you spend a whole lot of time on message boards. " Why would you even bring up the idea of "nobility" connected to whether one has television service or not? What had "nobility" got to do with it? That seems like a silly connection to make.&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;For me, that's been the tone of your anti-t.v. posts over the years here.  Not so in the tone of Savcal or the others who don't have more than 1 television.  At least 2 of us noticed it, it's not that big of a deal.  We get the whole free internet usage at work thing.  &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;<strong>FTR, I have way more than one television. We have four actually</strong> ...&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Um...congratulations?  Your clearly not seeing nobility in having just 1 t.v. has been in your post over the years.  Unless you're now claiming nobility in the party line, no/little t.v. growing up.</p><p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">savcal2011</em> wrote:</div>  I think I agree.  We didn't have HD tvs, or Xbox games, or cell phones, or SUVs "way back when" -- but that wasn't because we weren't materialistic. It's because those things didn't exist.  It was materialistic to have a tv, or wear a strand of pearls, etc, etc.  The importance of possession was still there -- it's just the possessions that were different. </blockquote></p>

1. How can I have made a stance about nobility and one tv when I've always had more than one tv.   That's the only thing I was correcting ... was your (I thought) innocent mistake about me having previously claimed to have only one tv. I've never claimed that because it's never been true.

2. As I said previously, I just threw the party line thing in as a interesting aside. 

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Thu, 10-17-2013 - 12:58pm

bordwithyou wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;bordwithyou&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;jamblessedthree&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;amp;gt;savcal2011&amp;amp;lt;/em&amp;amp;gt; wrote:&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;amp;amp;gt;mortyswife&amp;amp;amp;lt;/em&amp;amp;amp;gt; wrote:&amp;amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;Not being competitive. Just correcting a mis-statement by thardy.&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left"&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;Why? Did it bother you that she might have thought you only have ONE TV? lol.&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;/span&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;amp;gt;No, it's just incorrect.  There are so many false statements (or just plain made up lies) about me on this board that when i get a chance to correct one, I will.  &amp;amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;Poor thing, Calling others liars is not correcting it's accusing. &amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;She wasn't calling Thardy a liar in this case, she was correcting a misapprehension.   She's right, though, in other cases, there are lots of deliberate lies brandished about on this board.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;That's nice you speak for your friend too, Why is it you call others out when we do?  Thanks for clearing that up if you can.....  And that's no lie.. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>I don't.</p>

Ok then, done.  I won't fight the untruths which is better than calling out lies/liars. 

 


 


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