What do SAHMs do all day?

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What do SAHMs do all day?
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Mon, 10-14-2013 - 3:59pm

It was a question such as this that prompted  the male author to write the following article in the Huffington post.  He is tired of working moms of putting down his wife because she is SAH: 

Look, I don't cast aspersions on women who work outside of the home. I understand that many of them are forced into it because they are single mothers, or because one income simply isn't enough to meet the financial needs of their family. Or they just choose to work because that's what they want to do. Fine. I also understand that most "professional" women aren't rude, pompous and smug, like the two I met recently.

But I don't want to sing Kumbaya right now. I want to kick our backwards, materialistic society in the shins and say, "GET YOUR FREAKING HEAD ON STRAIGHT, SOCIETY."

This conversation shouldn't be necessary. I shouldn't need to explain why it's insane for anyone -- particularly other women -- to have such contempt and hostility for "stay at home" mothers. Are we really so shallow? Are we really so confused? Are we really the first culture in the history of mankind to fail to grasp the glory and seriousness of motherhood? The pagans deified Maternity and turned it into a goddess. We've gone the other direction; we treat it like a disease or an obstacle.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-walsh/youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-_b_4086126.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular
I also found the last couple of paragraphs interesting, he was talking about how it doesn't matter who is busier and why we try to keep score.
Any thoughts on the article?

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:03am

jamblessedthree wrote:
Psst morty, DD1 woke up extra early this morning.. When I asked her what the hurry was she said she needed to be at school by 7 for a practice psat..... OMG, I never knew but I got her up there on time, that's my mommy contribution for the day, Lol.

Oh, that's why all the kids weren't carrying backpacks!!  You're a good mommy, Jamblessed!!

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:06am

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:08am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p> I'm not surprised some see horse/horseback riding as high society, Major players and dignitaries own their own ya know.  My husband's family is far from that and they owned two (maybe three over the course of his childhood).   They know much more about them than you or anybody that just borrowed a horse for status or kicks. </p><p> </p><p> </p>

You're rich!  Seriously, a horse in this town would cost $$ to keep.  And it's a time commitment.

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:10am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>  I didn't "conclude" she had one shared bathroom and one shared phone.  I asked, and that's what she said.  We asked about cell phones but she hasn't responded yet.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>She simply copied the bold phrase she used in her original post.  You and Savcal <em>really</em> thought that Morty had no cell phone....even though she had <em>earlier clarified she had a cell phone</em>??? </p>

No, she said she had a cell phone, but I was wondering whether everybody in her household had cell phones, or whether they got by with just one, or just the adults, or whatever.  Because if they have just one, it might be a valid comparison to the "old days" when everyone shared a landline.  Otherwise, not so much,

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:12am

bordwithyou wrote:
  No, she said she had a cell phone, but I was wondering whether everybody in her household had cell phones, or whether they got by with just one, or just the adults, or whatever.  Because if they have just one, it might be a valid comparison to the "old days" when everyone shared a landline.  Otherwise, not so much,</p>

Well, she said she has cellphoneS but whatever.

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:13am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt; I'm not surprised some see horse/horseback riding as high society, Major players and dignitaries own their own ya know.  My husband's family is far from that and they owned two (maybe three over the course of his childhood).   They know much more about them than you or anybody that just borrowed a horse for status or kicks. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt; &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>You're rich!  Seriously, a horse in this town would cost $$ to keep.  And it's a time commitment.</p>

My kids took lessons/rode for awhile.  Then when my kid was about twelve, and beginning to compete, the instructor tells me, "He really needs his own horse.   One can only go "so far" on school horses."  My response:  "Then that's how far he's going."  He had no more than a passing desire for his own horse, and his father and I had no interest whatsoever in becoming horse owners.  I still don't know how he talked us into a dog.

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:14am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>  No, she said she had a cell phone, but I was wondering whether everybody in her household had cell phones, or whether they got by with just one, or just the adults, or whatever.  Because if they have just one, it might be a valid comparison to the "old days" when everyone shared a landline.  Otherwise, not so much,&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Well, she said she has cellphone<span style="font-size:medium"><strong>S</strong></span> but whatever.</p>

Well, you said you couldn't imagine her with just one landline, and that 29% of households was "most Americans," but you know, whatever.   It's early.  I imagine the coffee hadn't kicked in yet.

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:21am

bordwithyou wrote:
  My kids took lessons/rode for awhile.  Then when my kid was about twelve, and beginning to compete, the instructor tells me, "He really needs his own horse.   One can only go "so far" on school horses."  My response:  "Then that's how far he's going."  He had no more than a passing desire for his own horse, and his father and I had no interest whatsoever in becoming horse owners.  I still don't know how he talked us into a dog.</p>

Very wise.  If they are really interested in pursuing it, they will find a way.  A LOT of moms here drop their kids off in daycare or school while waltzing in wearing their jodhpurs. @@  Of course, they're not even going riding until after the kids get home, lol!  It's all a little transparent here. Smile

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:22am

bordwithyou wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">thardy2001</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;bordwithyou&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;  No, she said she had a cell phone, but I was wondering whether everybody in her household had cell phones, or whether they got by with just one, or just the adults, or whatever.  Because if they have just one, it might be a valid comparison to the "old days" when everyone shared a landline.  Otherwise, not so much,&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Well, she said she has cellphone&lt;span style="font-size:medium"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;S&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt; but whatever.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Well, you said you couldn't imagine her with just one landline, and that 29% of households was "most Americans," but you know, whatever.   It's early.  I imagine the coffee hadn't kicked in yet.</p>

Yup, that's it.  The coffee!

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Wed, 10-16-2013 - 9:37am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;thardy2001&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;bordwithyou&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;  No, she said she had a cell phone, but I was wondering whether everybody in her household had cell phones, or whether they got by with just one, or just the adults, or whatever.  Because if they have just one, it might be a valid comparison to the "old days" when everyone shared a landline.  Otherwise, not so much,&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;Well, she said she has cellphone&amp;lt;span style="font-size:medium"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;strong&amp;gt;S&amp;lt;/strong&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/span&amp;gt; but whatever.&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Well, you said you couldn't imagine her with just one landline, and that 29% of households was "most Americans," but you know, whatever.   It's early.  I imagine the coffee hadn't kicked in yet.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Yup, that's it.  The coffee!</p>

Shoot.  Now I have to go and get more coffee.

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