What do SAHMs teach their sons

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What do SAHMs teach their sons
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Thu, 04-24-2008 - 9:41pm
I was volunteering in my daughter's classroom. They were working on art history shirts. Meaning they are given an Historical character and they have to design a picture and then transfer it on their t-shirt. They are also supposed to come up with presentations re: the figure. Anyhow. I overheard a boy in the class tell the teacher that his mom's only job was to take care of him and his sister. My daughter told him that I worked and I was a nurse. He then told my daughter in front of me "She is a bad mom."

 

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 6:23am

Meh. Kids that age get a bunch of weird ideas about what men or women do or don't do. I certainly heard my share of it raising my son and I'm a WOHM.

He's not grown yet, no sense condemning him to misogynistic hell until he's actually earned it.

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 6:58am

I agree. At about the same age, my older son stated that he was going to marry a working woman so he could be the one who stayed home with the kids. Out of context it sounds really sweet, in context it was when his Dad was out of town and he was missing him AND he was mad at his mother for making him unload the dishwasher or some other form illegal child work.

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 9:09am
I find your post more sexist than the 2nd grader's comments. 1) You do not say anything about fathers teaching their children- only mothers. 2) You blame ALL sahms for the remark of ONE boy. 3) You assume ONLY boys (why not girls too?) with a sahm have this sentiment. 4) You assume that just because a mother is sah, she is teaching her child that this is the one and only way and everyone else is a baaaad mommy.- All from ONE remark from ONE 8 year old boy.


Edited 4/25/2008 9:18 am ET by tryingtoquit
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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 9:27am

My sons AND my daughter know it's okay to work. They know that me staying home

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 10:44am

I am sure the influence in the home is most likely the dad. Probably the way the dad treats the mom. I know his mom - sort of - she is a nice lady.

 

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 10:47am

>Reminds me of the Cosby show, Rudy's friend that was always sputing off about his brother's view of women and what they should do. Maybe he's been watching reruns,lol.<

My first thought as well. The kid is probably watching too much TV. I find the commercials to be worse that the shows. One I especially hate is the paper plate commercial where the family is playing a game and the mom is in the kitchen cleaning up after dinner.

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 10:58am

Did I say that? No. It was a question on what is being taught in the home. I am someone who SAH during the week and works on the weekend - so I really appreciate staying at home. It does concern me that boys view this as the role of the woman. It is something probably not worth worrying about because if he carries this attitude into adulthood he will probably choose a mate that has the same view. Hopefully my daughters will choose a mate that will treat them like an equal. However - his dad is a CEO - if this is his view - he is probably mysonginistic himself and has made decisions in his work place in regaurds to women that work underneath him. This boy could someday be an executive and have the same attitude.


The title was a question - not to be taken as a statement.

 

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 11:01am
My six year old has not yet become cognizant of women who work and women who stay home.

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 11:03am
That is exactly what my brother did. He is a SAHD right now. Plans on going back to work when the oldest is in school FT. He is a composer and an Opera singer. He does a few things here and there. He actually wrote, coposed, and produced a musical comedy about being a SAHD.

 

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 11:09am

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