What do we owe our familes?

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Registered: 10-04-2007
What do we owe our familes?
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Fri, 11-14-2008 - 6:25am

Ok, I'll admit this career change hasn't gone as well as hoped.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 5:34pm

It really depends on what you mean by lesser lifestyle. Do you mean you have to buy their clothes at Target instead of Land's End? Or do you mean they won't get new

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 6:09pm
I have never, once, said that my family members are worth only what they bring in in the way of income.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-1998
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 6:37pm
Actually, plenty of very good mothers ask their kids to do some sacrificing., knowing that it is good for their moral development.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 6:40pm
I ask Liza to make sacrfices all the time. And I ask myself to make them too. We're in this together after all.
Yes. We. Can.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 7:08pm

Income is only one factor but it's the facor that changes here.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 7:20pm

Actually income isn't the only factor that changes when a parent takes a lower-paying job. It never is. Your happiness with your work is also a factor that directly influences your family's well-being. And there's nothing wrong with asking a kid to settle for Target pants instead of Abercrombie pants (or even Walmart pants instead of Target pants) if it means mom and dad get to keep the jobs they like.


But it sounds as if you've come to the conclusion that you need to get a higher paying job.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 8:24pm

>I do think we owe it to our kids to nurture their talents.<

I agree with that. And only you can decide on whatever "sacrifices" are needed to make that happen. For us, we had to chose between professional art lessons and Erica's very real need to have a sahm. She couldn't have both. Instead, she got a more informal education through going to art museums, art books, and supplies. Which still put her ahead of whatever art education she got through the school district until she got into high school. And then, those teachers just filled in the gaps.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 8:46pm

I'm going to stick with nothing else changes.

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 8:51pm

If it were one thing or another that benefitted my children, I'd make a choice.

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Registered: 09-21-2008
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 9:09pm

Because, while they do grow up and move

 

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