What do we owe our familes?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2007
What do we owe our familes?
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Fri, 11-14-2008 - 6:25am

Ok, I'll admit this career change hasn't gone as well as hoped.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 10:54pm

"A content mother will make a more 'effective' mother than a mother who is not happy with their life decisions."


Right now she is not happy with the life decision that she did make, she has some doubts about it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2008
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 11:21pm

See this is what I do not get about this board.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 7:08am

If you are absolutely determined to be Martyr Mom, then knock yourself out. A martyr can never be talked out of self sacrifice even if the supposed beneficiaries of this sacrifice would be better off if they didn't have the guilt heaped on their heads of all Mom gave up for them. If it was all just "I don't make enough money here. I need to go back to higher pay" then I wouldn't invoke Martyr Mom. But the pounding away at the theme of sacrificing your own happiness

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 7:36am

"See this is what I do not get about this board.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 9:15am

Like it or not, income matters WRT how our kids turn out.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 9:16am

"Kids shouldn't be asked to sacrifice just so mom can have what she wants. "

How many times have we heard this argument when talking about choose-to-work parents?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 9:17am

But what's sad to you is not to me.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 9:22am

"I'm surprised at how much of my

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 9:23am
That's a fundamental difference - when I was growing up, my brother and I sacrificed nothing.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 9:39am

" Like it or not, income matters WRT how our kids turn out. It determines opportunities and influences outcomes. "

Up to a point, but it has a diminishing value of returns as the income increase.

"What kind of mother asks her kids to do the sacrificing?"

But you are not asking your children to "sacrifice", you are asking your children to do without a few wants OR find a way to do it themselves.

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