What do you call...

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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 10:52pm
a full-time student mom? Am I a wohm because my dd goes to daycare 4 days/week? Am I a sah mom because I do the traditional work at home two days a week and keep my dd home one day per week? Am I a ftswohstsahm (full time student work out of home some time stay at home mom)? Is what I do considered work since I don't get a real pay check for it? I know this doesn't really matter. I am a good mommy to dd and a good wife to dh and good to myself on occasion and that is what truly matters. I don't really know why I am so drawn to this board since I don't fit any of the categories. I guess because I like the debates. I would love to sah f/t, but that isn't an option right now. I want to finish school and I am almost there (2 more years of a 6 year Ph.D. program and the last two years are more p/t than f/t). DD will be in pre-K by the time I finish school and I hope to start a private practice and only work part-time like when she is in school only and spend the rest of my time with her. Then I will still be like a sahm with the pay benefits of woh. Just thought I would throw this out there if anyone cares.
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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 11:23pm
IMO, and this might be totally off base, if you are not employed out of the home then you are a SAHM who is also a student. Where your children are isn't the issue, it's whether or not you work outside the home.

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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 11:29pm
I agree. I know sahms who send their kids to daycare some. I know sahms who send their kids to preschool. I know sahms who send their kids to school & have no kids at home (me someday). But they are all sahms because they don't earn a paycheck.
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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 11:48pm
That was going to be my answer also.
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 8:07pm
Doesn't the term SAHM imply that the focus of this mom's time and energy is in taking care of the home and the kids? So if a mom is in school and sending her kids to daycare, she isn't home, right? Although she isn't a wage-earner, the end result from the perspective of the kids is the same. What is the material difference between working 4 days a week and going to school 4 days a week?
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 10:13pm
If she was in school 40hrs a week I could agree. But most college students don't go to school like that. They have classes and they have their off time from school, then she'd presumably be home with the kids.

If you are going to school you aren't getting paid so how could that be a WOH? It can't.

My child is in school all day but I'm still a SAHM. I'm a mother, who stays home, I don't work outside the home, I do not earn a paycheck.

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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 1:06pm
Hey, maybe there are more than 2 catagories?
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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 3:49pm
This is kinda where I was going with all of this. There are probably more than 2 categories. I am a graduate student who is home some days with dd and who is at school some days where I teach, see clinical clients, write my dissertation among other scholastic things as part of my degree requirements.

Thanks for all of your comments.

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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 3:54pm
Yes, and all SAH or WOH moms may not be that similar either. A SAHM who spends all her time darning and canning has little in common with a SAHM with a housekeeper. I think there are lots of subcategories.

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