I am a social worker and having a baby with my husband in Oct.
I only have one child and can only speak from personal experience, which was that daycare at 5 months for DD was very stressful for her because she was a bad sleeper and the staff didn't have the time to spend half an hour rocking her to sleep for her naps (we got a nanny instead). If it were me I'd put her in day care two mornings or afternoons
Wow -- it always amazes me how different babies are. My ex husband and I referr to Liza's infancy as 'the Bataan death march" I remember crying in Walmart once b/c an errand only took me 20 minutes and I diidn't want to go home to that screaming red faced nonsleeping ball of fury LOL!
now that she's 9 -- whole different story - lots of fun. As an infant? I can't imagine thinking her nap was too long to be away from her -- LOL!
Yes. We. Did.
Actually having FT SAHM friends and full-time working mom friends is a really good thing.