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| Thu, 01-24-2008 - 10:53am |
I am looking at going to work full time, but of course I feel guilty. Shouldn't a mom want to spend every waking minute with her children? I feel like a bad mom even considering it. On the other hand, we could use the money, to start paying off debt we have accumulated from me being at home, start saving, etc. We live in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment and they have no yard to play in. If I work we would be able to get a house, and of course we could provide more for them. I am lucky and daycare isn't really an issue, my mom will be home with my kids, but I still feel GUILTY!!!!! My kids are 4 and 2 1/2 (twins), so I feel like I've given them a great start, but I still feel GUILTY!! I enjoy being home with them, but somedays I want to pull my hair out and things feel so out of balance. My best friend tried the stay at home thing and only lasted 4 months, she knew it wasn't for her, and doesn't seem to feel the guilt that I do. I would just like to hear how some of you dealt with these feelings, and what your decisions were. Thanks!
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"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t
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"I think Noonan is at least eight years too late when she laments that faith now trumps competence in GOP politics. It didn't seem to bother her much when a candidate she supported -- the catastrophically underqualified GWB -- was running and citing Jesus as his favorite political philosopher...It's like the old saying: When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with Hucka-fleas..."--Gator
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"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t
I have worked full-time since my son was 3 months old.
P
Shoot, Joel still did that up to age 9 or so.
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