what to do?

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Registered: 01-24-2008
what to do?
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Thu, 01-24-2008 - 10:53am
I am looking at going to work full time, but of course I feel guilty. Shouldn't a mom want to spend every waking minute with her children? I feel like a bad mom even considering it. On the other hand, we could use the money, to start paying off debt we have accumulated from me being at home, start saving, etc. We live in a tiny 2 bedroom apartment and they have no yard to play in. If I work we would be able to get a house, and of course we could provide more for them. I am lucky and daycare isn't really an issue, my mom will be home with my kids, but I still feel GUILTY!!!!! My kids are 4 and 2 1/2 (twins), so I feel like I've given them a great start, but I still feel GUILTY!! I enjoy being home with them, but somedays I want to pull my hair out and things feel so out of balance. My best friend tried the stay at home thing and only lasted 4 months, she knew it wasn't for her, and doesn't seem to feel the guilt that I do. I would just like to hear how some of you dealt with these feelings, and what your decisions were. Thanks!
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Registered: 12-07-2003
In reply to: mommy3z
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 8:03pm
Samantha's was "uh-oh."

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Registered: 10-30-2007
In reply to: mommy3z
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 8:32pm
I hear ya!! Especially now that they are walking everywhere!! LOL But it's cute to watch.
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Registered: 10-30-2007
In reply to: mommy3z
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 8:33pm
What?
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Registered: 01-05-2000
In reply to: mommy3z
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 9:01pm

Children who never roll over, never crawl, never walk, never learn to talk. You know, disabled children.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: mommy3z
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 9:06pm
Ha! That's when it's *most* easy--when it's someone else's issues! I'm the world wisest woman when it comes to other people ;) My own issues? Well, I leave that in Katie and Lauren's capable hands ;)

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Kitty

"I think Noonan is at least eight years too late when she laments that faith now trumps competence in GOP politics. It didn't seem to bother her much when a candidate she supported -- the catastrophically underqualified GWB -- was running and citing Jesus as his favorite political philosopher...It's like the old saying: When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with Hucka-fleas..."--Gator

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: mommy3z
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 9:08pm
I must be magic, then. I worked fulltime but I was quite well aware when my son was fixing to start crawling, walking and all those other first. It's not like I was blind and stupid just because I WOH.

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Kitty

"I think Noonan is at least eight years too late when she laments that faith now trumps competence in GOP politics. It didn't seem to bother her much when a candidate she supported -- the catastrophically underqualified GWB -- was running and citing Jesus as his favorite political philosopher...It's like the old saying: When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with Hucka-fleas..."--Gator

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: mommy3z
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 9:10pm
Hey, no fair!! Mine DOES walk! Why is HE overcompensating with talking???? LOL Oh wait, whose son is he again? Uh...nevermind. ;)

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Kitty

"I think Noonan is at least eight years too late when she laments that faith now trumps competence in GOP politics. It didn't seem to bother her much when a candidate she supported -- the catastrophically underqualified GWB -- was running and citing Jesus as his favorite political philosopher...It's like the old saying: When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with Hucka-fleas..."--Gator

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 07-26-2007
In reply to: mommy3z
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 9:14pm

Ha!!! I'm not sure it was an actual "word", but John managed to use the infant "dada! dada!" to the huge embarrassment of a total stranger--a poor, unsuspecting young enlistedman who had the misfortune of standing in line in front of us at the Finance Office and who looked at John and smiled. John burst out with a HUGE smile, leaned out, arms stretched and shrieked that "word" with such joy that the guy's buddies just NEVER stopped ribbing the guy.

It *was* kinda funny, but I still felt kinda bad for him :)

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Kitty

"I think Noonan is at least eight years too late when she laments that faith now trumps competence in GOP politics. It didn't seem to bother her much when a candidate she supported -- the catastrophically underqualified GWB -- was running and citing Jesus as his favorite political philosopher...It's like the old saying: When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with Hucka-fleas..."--Gator

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Kitty

"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 11-28-2007
In reply to: mommy3z
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 9:14pm

I have worked full-time since my son was 3 months old.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
In reply to: mommy3z
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 9:33pm

Shoot, Joel still did that up to age 9 or so.