What does it mean to be overscheduled?

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What does it mean to be overscheduled?
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 12:43pm
Do you have a limit in your for you or your children so you don't get overscheduled? How much time doing things would you consider being overscheduled?

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 12:54pm
for us it's a 2 activity minimum and dance is usually the constant -- so for example dance and soccer are what's happening this fall -- with back to back dance classes on Friday and one practice and 2 games per week for soccer I think that's PLENTY. (I'm not counting being an altar girl since we go to mass anyway each weekend). When soccer is over she can either take a class at her acting school or audition for the winter production -- as she gets older and I'm confident she can handle a bit more we'll let her add another activity-- but this "no more than 2" rule has helped me sidestep her fleeting request to sign up for brownies ;-)

 

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 12:59pm
It's kid and family dependent. Both of our kids are in numerous activities, especially during the school year, but as long as they are having fun, getting their schoolwork done, and not stressed out with their schedules, we're OK. Older one does piano, percussion, and a seasonal sport, the younger one does orchestra and private lessons, piano, a seasonal sport, and they share a paper route. Both are also active in church actitivies, including youth group.
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:13pm

We usually have a limit of *1 art, 1 sport* per season. anything more than that and we are doing stuff every night of the week, which to me would constitute being overscheduled.

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:20pm
I didn't realize that Liza moving up a league in soccer this year meant TWO games a week -- I just downloaded the schedule and nearly shot myself... LOL

 

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:27pm

ooohhh just wait dearie. Dd (16) is playing flag football. Practice every day after school and an average of 3 games a week. Sigh. Luckily its a short season!

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:29pm

yeah yeah...it's just that soccer is the sort of abberation for my little performing arts junkie -- I know my way around theaters and studios and recitals and shows and rehearsals, I know makeup and tights, and scripts, and scores...

I still don't know diddly from cleats and shinguards LOL

 

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:30pm

It really depends on the family & on the kids. One family's activities could be too much for another.

The last few years my girls have just done dance during the school year and girl scouts during the school year. Halfway through last year they added ice skating for 4 of the months, which they both did. In April dd1 started softball which went through the 2nd week of July. During softball season it was really busy, but Girl scouts & dance ended in May, so in June & half of July it was only softball. I meant to get them into swimming for the 3 months of summer, but never did. That has been a tradition too, to do swimming when not in dance. The only month that felt overscheduled was May when softball, girl scouts & dance was going on. But they overlapped & I think my dd was the better for doing a team sport--it was the first time she had wanted to be in a team sport activitiy.

And when I consider activities for my kids it is not just dependent on how many they do. It's what day they meet & how often. They are all different. Girl scouts is only twice a month. Dance once a week. ice skating once a week. Softball was 3 practices a week at first then when games started it moved up to 4-5 nights a week (but was managed with carpooling). And swimming was twice a week.

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:31pm

I think it depends on the kid. We always let the kids take the lead on choosing their activities with the understanding that school work and getting enough rest must remain the priorities. In elementary school most of their activities were just once a week so it wasn't too big a deal. At the high school level we had some challenging months when marching band and dance team overlapped, but most of the time both of my kids were good about realistically scheduling things. It also helped that we only had two and dh and I could cover both of their events.

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:34pm

Oh....just wait, tournaments will be added at some point as well.

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:35pm
stop stop you're killin me.... I can handle dance recitals! i can handle tech weeks for productions , I can handle set strike after a show-- that's my world -- the world of the soccer field is a strange one to me... LOL

 

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