What have you given up?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
What have you given up?
1752
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 10:48am
What have you "given up" in order to have and parent children?

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 12:56pm
Rather than having "given up" things because I have had kids, I like to think that there are things DH and I have "postponed" because we are, or have been, busy raising kids. The winter I got pregnant with DS#1, we were thinking of going to Egypt the following year. We still haven't been to Egypt, although last I heard, the pyramids were still there. Meanwhile, we've done lots and lots of other things, some because we had kids, some we would have done with or without kids, and some in spite of having kids.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:00pm

Did you take them to any of the adult-oriented activities?


<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /> 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:01pm
The things I like to do in Paris, and the amount of time I like to take to do them, aren't conducive to bringing young children along.

<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /> 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:04pm

I don't understand that.

<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /> 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:09pm
Uhmm...I have kids. I didn't choose the neighborhood I live in with regard to the quality of the schools because we have a variety of magnet and private schools to choose from if the public school didn't turn out to be the right match for the kid in question. I have never had any desire to sleep until noon; I am a morning person so sleeping late just makes me cranky and groggy. And when the kids were in daycare, we had sex anyplace in the house we wanted in the middle of the day. Or the middle of the night, for that matter.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:14pm
We needed every minute of the 50 hours of childcare we had to cover our work hours and with DH's commute, midday sex just wasn't happening.

<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /> 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:19pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:19pm

My getting up and getting ready before I want to is more likely to be driven by DH than by kids. He has this stupid internal clock that wakes him up between four and five. So early in our marriage I learned to get up long before I wanted to if I wanted to have quality time with DH -- because the same internal clock that gets him up at 4:30 makes him really sleepy by 9:30 pm.

When the kids were little I usually got up with DH, who left the house by 6 am, usually before one or both kids were up.

DH was in Paris last week (ironically enough) and I got to sleep until 6 am. That is one of the two benefits of him being out of town. The other is that I get to use his parking sticker, which is a lot closer to the building we both work in than is mine!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:27pm

"Rather than having "given up" things because I have had kids, I like to think that there are things DH and I have "postponed" because we are, or have been, busy raising kids"


I agree.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 1:29pm

That's a pretty broad question, I'm not sure I can give you an answer that covers that totally.

PumpkinAngel

Pages