What have you given up?

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What have you given up?
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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 10:48am
What have you "given up" in order to have and parent children?

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 4:15pm

Baby Einstein is like Sild's daughter, I think. I make him go to his room between 10 and 11, which is when I go to bed, mostly because he can't be trusted to turn out all the lights if he stays up later than me. He really doesn't fall asleep until after midnight. He is hard to get up, period. Whether he's had twelve hours of sleep or six doesn't matter. He gets his best, deepest sleep in between about 2 am and 10 am. It's just who he is.

Viola Boy will most often come up sometime between 9:30 and 10 and announce he is going to bed and will I please tuck him in?

Our foster daughter is, like DH, a natural morning person. No matter how late she was up the night before, she is awake before 8 am. And if she hasn't had enough sleep, she is grouchy. She will try to stay up with the boys and falls asleep on the couch around 9 pm most nights. I have to wake her up to get her into bed when I go to bed.

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 4:15pm
Good point.
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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 4:16pm

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But again, you are assuming that lax with bedtimes equals staying up late or as in the case of sild, having an early bedtime did nothing to get her dd to sleep at that time. Not everyone has the sleep cycle that you are talking about.

ITA with you but just as you said, if your child was having a problem getting up in the morning, you would have them go to bed a little earlier, no? Shouldn't these parents realize this too?

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Well it couldn't have been too bad since you fell for him and married him, lol. ;) I'm really not interested in mothering my dh, he can choose his own sleep cycle, routine and schedule...I'm not about to put him on mine, lol. Now my kids, have developed their own for the most part...it works for us, they dont' have problems in school and I don't have problems getting them up in the morning and my tween mostly only talks back to me, lol.

I did not say I am "mothering" him even though I am a better "mother" to him than his mother ever was (meaning I taught him things he was never taught by her). We learned alot from each other and build our own schedules before we even got married. His mother, I am sure from being overwhelmed with having 3 kids by the age of 22 and never felt like she had freedom in her 20's and 30's was lax with things like bedtimes, eating, going out late, etc. They never had set boundaries and she was more a "friend" than a mother. I do not want that for my children and neither does my dh and that is why we have schedules for the kids most of the time.

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 4:17pm

I'm really lost today, lol...I'm not following what you are disagreeing with, sounds like you agree with me.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 4:17pm

"I'm really not interested in mothering my dh, he can choose his own sleep cycle, routine and schedule...I'm not about to put him on mine, lol."


Your DH apparently doesn't need mothering.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 4:18pm

....ah but see when your kids go to school together and are in most activites together, it's not complicated at all.


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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 4:19pm

Huh?

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 4:19pm

I'm willing (and have) to take my friends children for several days...I'm in a very small community, school wise and most of the parents or at least the parents of the boys work together a lot because our kids do a lot together outside of school. I also have a close knit group in one of the volunteer groups that I belong.

Basically there is a group of us with boys the same ages that do a lot together in and out of school and we have been together since the boys were young.

Where did you say "luck" in post 612?

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Thu, 07-03-2008 - 4:19pm

A couple of weeks back my kids weren't in school, but both of my kids and this kid were in the same camp that week.


If it was school, then that child would do the same thing that my child does after school, either an activity or aftercare.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 4:20pm
When you go away without your DH and kids for the weekend, does your DH do the laundry, shopping and keep the house as clean as you do?

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