Well as I said, we are in a pretty small school community and the group that I would reach to and have reached out to me, all (except one) go to school together and all the boys basically do the same activities together...so they mesh by default.
So again, situations and characteristics are quite different and missing things is not a result of taking a nap in general but more specific to the individual.
Why should my DH live up to "my" standards? Or I to his? We are both grown-ups, that is why. I am fully resigned to the fact that when I travel for business, the kids will not get any fresh veggies, and the vacuum cleaner will not be run and the toilet will not be clean when I get home.
On the other hand, DH has to be resigned to the fact that when he travels, I will not live up to HIS standards on certain things.
We are two different people. Not clones of each other.
A variety of things: my kids go to sleepover camp, our friends have cared for them (and vice versa), my parents have cared for them and we have hired a sitter.
Me to you:
But you do realize how lucky you have been, no? Many people do not have relatives who are close enough to watch their child overnight let alone for a couple of hours.
You to me:
I don't know if it's luck or that we work to maintain those types of relationships.
Tryingtoquit to you:
I responded to her because she agreed with your post. So, how do you attract and maintain friends who are willing to take your children for several days?
You to tryingto quit--#612:
I'm willing (and have) to take my friends children for several days...I'm in a very small community, school wise and most of the parents or at least the parents of the boys work together a lot because our kids do a lot together outside of school. I also have a close knit group in one of the volunteer groups that I belong.
Basically there is a group of us with boys the same ages that do a lot together in and out of school and we have been together since the boys were young.
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Well as I said, we are in a pretty small school community and the group that I would reach to and have reached out to me, all (except one) go to school together and all the boys basically do the same activities together...so they mesh by default.
PumpkinAngel
So again, situations and characteristics are quite different and missing things is not a result of taking a nap in general but more specific to the individual.
PumpkinAngel
Why should my DH live up to "my" standards? Or I to his? We are both grown-ups, that is why. I am fully resigned to the fact that when I travel for business, the kids will not get any fresh veggies, and the vacuum cleaner will not be run and the toilet will not be clean when I get home.
On the other hand, DH has to be resigned to the fact that when he travels, I will not live up to HIS standards on certain things.
We are two different people. Not clones of each other.
A variety of things: my kids go to sleepover camp, our friends have cared for them (and vice versa), my parents have cared for them and we have hired a sitter.
Me to you:
But you do realize how lucky you have been, no? Many people do not have relatives who are close enough to watch their child overnight let alone for a couple of hours.
You to me:
I don't know if it's luck or that we work to maintain those types of relationships.
Tryingtoquit to you:
I responded to her because she agreed with your post. So, how do you attract and maintain friends who are willing to take your children for several days?
You to tryingto quit--#612:
I'm willing (and have) to take my friends children for several days...I'm in a very small community, school wise and most of the parents or at least the parents of the boys work together a lot because our kids do a lot together outside of school. I also have a close knit group in one of the volunteer groups that I belong.
Basically there is a group of us with boys the same ages that do a lot together in and out of school and we have been together since the boys were young.
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I don't have this experience nor do my children, so I don't know how it would affect them.
PumpkinAngel
What would I have to make up for?
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I didn't say I said "luck" in post 612, I stated that I explained how I worked on relationships in post 612.
PumpkinAngel
So you are indeed glossing over the first part as I stated.
PumpkinAngel
Okay...what is it that you don't understand after all of that?
PumpkinAngel
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