lolol!!! Thanks. And this was my first time with all of them-lol!!! The hardest is the one year old as you have to know where he is ALL the time, make sure all the doors are shut to the rooms, make sure nothing small is on the floor for him to put in his mouth, make sure he is not climbing on everything he can, scaling the walls, etc-lol!! Everything had to be done before getting to the pool as he runs and you have to follow him around the entire time as it is an in-ground pool so you can't stop to do something for one of the other kids unless you have
That is the one I bought but I used my sister's that day. I HATE that one and will not buy it again. The stick for the face was great though and the kids stayed still for that.
I may have missed it (I was so far behind that I didn't read every post), so please forgive me....but I didn't see where the one with the higher standard is expecting it of the one with the lower standard.
Having alone time with dh at night doesn't work for us. It's not uncommon for dh to go to bed before Dylan does. But then dh gets up at 5am regardless of day of the week. I go to bed between 11pm and midnight and get up between 6-7. Dylan goes to bed at 9pm and gets up between 6:30 and 7am during the school year. On non-school days, sometimes I can get Dylan to go back to bed for another 1/2 hour or so.
But what standards are "higher"? My DH will play endless hours of baseball with my youngest son, he'll spend endless hours driving my other son to his traveling soccer team events. He'll work with them nightly on their Spanish program that I have a tendency to let slide. I'm ok that the house isn't exactly clean or neat when I get home from a business trip and that laundry may be clean and still in the laundry basket. The children's chores get done, because they know there will consequences if they are not done when I get home; we chat about them nightly when I'm away.
If high standards include a spotless home, 100% healthy meals, and perfectly behaved children, than DH and I both fail as both dual and single care givers. But if high standards include happy, well-cared for children, in the midst of organized chaos with the push-pull of the strengths and weaknesses in our personalities, we've got that covered. Both dh and I travel for business 4-5 times a year for about a week at a time, we function better as a team, but solo parenting works fine in a short term, no standards compromised.
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I may have missed it (I was so far behind that I didn't read every post), so please forgive me....but I didn't see where the one with the higher standard is expecting it of the one with the lower standard.
For example, clutter.
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Ducky
Having alone time with dh at night doesn't work for us. It's not uncommon for dh to go to bed before Dylan does. But then dh gets up at 5am regardless of day of the week. I go to bed between 11pm and midnight and get up between 6-7. Dylan goes to bed at 9pm and gets up between 6:30 and 7am during the school year. On non-school days, sometimes I can get Dylan to go back to bed for another 1/2 hour or so.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Okay, I see that.
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Ducky
But what standards are "higher"? My DH will play endless hours of baseball with my youngest son, he'll spend endless hours driving my other son to his traveling soccer team events. He'll work with them nightly on their Spanish program that I have a tendency to let slide. I'm ok that the house isn't exactly clean or neat when I get home from a business trip and that laundry may be clean and still in the laundry basket. The children's chores get done, because they know there will consequences if they are not done when I get home; we chat about them nightly when I'm away.
If high standards include a spotless home, 100% healthy meals, and perfectly behaved children, than DH and I both fail as both dual and single care givers. But if high standards include happy, well-cared for children, in the midst of organized chaos with the push-pull of the strengths and weaknesses in our personalities, we've got that covered. Both dh and I travel for business 4-5 times a year for about a week at a time, we function better as a team, but solo parenting works fine in a short term, no standards compromised.
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I have maybe another year or 2 until Dylan is taller than me. Right now, he is up to my shoulders.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
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