What have you given up?

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Registered: 07-17-2007
What have you given up?
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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 10:48am
What have you "given up" in order to have and parent children?

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 10:00pm
This may be a stupid question, but you have always struck me as a planner. Why in the world would you get on a plane with a 3yo without any snacks or drinks? I don't even do that as an adult.
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Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 10:12pm
Since we already have to make a portion without spiciness or onions for me, it was never a big deal to make a little extra for ds.. LOL. (I can't do spicy.)
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Registered: 08-08-2006
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 10:22pm

Is it conversely true that his standards are not being met in his absence by you? Or does your dh not contribute to the "standards" of your family life. I gave examples where dh was much better than me at some things. Is it less work to be a hands-on dad, intimately involved in day-to-day sport and extra-curricular educational activities?

When my dh travels, I have to step up and do things that I'm not normally responsible for. I probably don't do them well or sometimes, at all.

Didn't you just say that he couldn't or wouldn't achieve your "high standards" of home and childcare? Hey, I've got expectations, there is a minimum standard of cleanliness, laundry, and food choices that I expect when I'm gone and I've ripped him a new on one occasion when they don't get done. But conversely, he's ripped me about being more concerned about cleanliness, laundry, and food choices than the actual psychological needs of the children when the other parent is away.

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 10:33pm

"These women"? Care to explain that one?

Isn't it a bit remarkable that some dhs don't have to be the main breadwinner OR lift a finger at home?

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 10:37pm

I think that is the most disgusting thing I have ever heard.

I bet you don't have a problem when men refer to watching their own children as "babysitting".

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 10:42pm
Hypothetically... why should he? What automatically makes the higher standards better? Maybe the wife's standards are ridiculous?
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 11:55pm

Yeah, I have to step it up a bit when dh is away.

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Ducky

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 07-03-2008 - 11:57pm

What automatically makes the higher standards better? Maybe the wife's standards are ridiculous?


lol.....dh would say that's me, "ridiculous standards".

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Ducky

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 2:55am
Yes, but the point is that some of us do not have any friends willing to do such things, no matter how tight our communities might be.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 3:06am
It is great that you can do that, but honestly I have never come across anyone who does such things. I think you and PKA have unusual situations going, and good for you both, but most of us would have to pay through the nose for that kind of babysitting, IF we could find someone willing to live in while we went away. The one time I did it (for one day and one night), I paid 125 for the day and 100 for the night, so 225 per 24 hours.

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