What have you given up?

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Registered: 07-17-2007
What have you given up?
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Mon, 06-30-2008 - 10:48am
What have you "given up" in order to have and parent children?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-08-2006
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 11:49am

<<Personally, I didn't get married and have children to be a single parent a lot of the time, but that's just me.>>


well, neither did I BUT that's just the way that my first marriage worked out.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 11:52am
Our Church options are very limited when compared to other denominations. We have to travel 20+ minutes to get to one and all reasonable options are large (for our denomination). I think our youth represented 10 different HS'. It isn't a "close in" community because we are too far strewn across the county. We are very active on our Congregation, but it is different than if it were a town Congregation where every one went to the same schools and were on the same teams and saw each other at the Farmer's Market. It just doesn't exist here. This is obviously one of the pluses to living in a small town and insular community.
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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 11:56am

"I think that is great but again, when someone has a mortgage to pay, it is quite hard for them to save for a vacation. :)"

IMO, that would mean the mortgage is too high for the income.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 11:58am

for me, there were lots of reasons why I didn't divorce ex over those years....some of it was financial and knowing that I couldn't have made it alone on my salary, some of it was not wanting to deal with my daughter alyssa and her disability all by myself, some of it was not wanting to pull the rug of stability out from under my children, some of it was believing (erroneously, of course) that it would, even with counseling, get better.


financially the worries were real because when we had separated at one point (6 years into the marriage), he paid me NO money whatsoever -- NOTHING to run the household, NOR for the children.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 12:00pm
He wouldn't feed the kids?
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Fri, 07-04-2008 - 12:02pm


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 12:07pm

Yes, exactly.

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 1:18pm
Which is exactly my point. :) I'm not saying that everyone should share my opinion about it, only that it is my opinion. And who's to say what I would do if actually faced with the situation.
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Registered: 07-26-2007
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 1:23pm
I keep baby food on hand, especially when I have a foster cat. Cat digestive systems can get wonky when they're stressed and baby food chicken is a good re-introduction.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-04-2008 - 1:38pm

Why automatically a power issue? Why not just high standards and a lack of willingness to do extra work after the trip?


The female doesn't get to set the bar for standards - it's up to each couple to set their own collective standards, and it's certainly not always one gender that has the "higher" standards.


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