What is a healthy balance?

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What is a healthy balance?
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Wed, 04-15-2009 - 11:43pm
The post I made here recently "is 30 minutes a day with your kids enough" and the Dr. Laura post make me wonder--what is a healthy balance?

Kat

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 9:38am

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That says it all!


Kat

Kat

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 10:17am

I WOH 9 hours a week plus prep time and grading at home, but they are all on different days at different times (some days in the early morning, some days in the evening, some day in the middle of the afternoon, and it all changes again each semester), so there is little day-to-day consistency for me and for DS, and it makes it hard to find and pay for child care.

I don't like having to wait until DS takes a nap or his Grandma visits or his dad gets home to get work done. I want to focus on work when I'm at work and on home when I'm at home.

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 10:36am
We chose city in large part because it is a need for me, but also because we wanted dd to have easy access to a wide range of activities and have her be close to school. From that starting point we then picked the part of the city and placed our office in the same hood.
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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 11:54am

I don't know. I'm still working on it. And I suspect that I'll be working on it until the day I die. The thing is that just when I get a handle on balance in my life, my life changes. And the process begins all over again. However, as a general rule, I try to keep my work hours down to 8-10 hours a day and try to get into bed by 11pm. Neither of which happens on a daily or even weekly basis.

Chris

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 12:20pm

How does your employer feel about your idea of balance?

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 12:52pm

What I have found over the years (kids are 13 &11) is that the balance changes on a constant basis so I have found that my balance is an ever changing position.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 3:10pm

Hmmmm...good questions.

Kat

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 3:19pm

This is such a subjective question. It really depends on the circumstances of the family, the personalities/temperaments/needs of family members, and a whole host of other factors.

In my specific case, I try to spend some face time with each of my kids alone every day they're with me (50/50 custody), even if it's just a few minutes, as well as time together as a family. We always sit down to eat dinner together, and I consider that extremely important. The weekends that I have them, I try to keep free of any personal/social obligations.

I'm aware that things will necessarily be shifting over the next few months, with the arrival of my daughter and the boys moving to middle and high school. We will have to reassess come fall.

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 5:45pm

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I think that's why she asked "What is the right balance FOR YOU?" (emphasis mine).

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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 11:16pm

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That's a great way to spend time with your kids; and keep tabs on what they're doing online.

Kat