What it costs to sah vs what it costs to
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|Thu, 04-03-2003 - 5:38am|
You know how I love a bargain. And when I find a bargain that's related to this debate, well, I'm in heaven. "So You Want to Be a Stay-At-Home-Mom" (1999)by Cheryl Gochnauer was this week's debate find.
In the author's "Mission Statement" for families hoping to have a sahp, savings is listed as an expense. I have to wonder, then, what the wohp saved while working, and why that wasn't calculated into the *cost* of sah. It was never mentioned. She listed things that the sahp would "save" on - daycare, clothing, the 2nd car. But what she had been saving is not listed as a "savings" when she sah. So how can she list it as an "expense" that the family has to figure in while doing it's budget? IF it's an expense on one income, should what the new sahp isn't saving anymore be listed as a savings? Of course it makes no sense. The author didn't think she could convince anyone that not saving saves you more money than saving does. :-)
But, IRL, when a family figures the cost of sah, it *has* to figure in the lost savings. Why did this author leave that out? All she mentioned was the amount of income that was left after "expenses" every week. And we already know that she considers savings an expense.
Also, "Maintaining Skills" is listed in the mission statement - things like keeping memberships in professional organizations, taking classes to keep up to date, etc.UGHHHH! Those things cost MONEY! Why weren't those things listed as expenses? There's a catch-all category listed - "other". But why so vague? College courses are hardly paid for with petty cash. Education costs certainly merit a mention in the budget.
As I read this book, I felt like I was reading this board. So *this* is where the people find the theory that they use their PHD when they pour a bowl of cheerios while waiting for the spin cycle to finish. ;-)
I think there are two books that are like the Old and New Testaments for the militant sah crowd. One is by the infamous Dr L. This is the other.