What kind of errands....

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Registered: 08-27-2005
What kind of errands....
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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 1:41pm

Do you run on a daily basis? Weekly basis? Monthly basis?

I've often heard people say that they need a lot of time during the week to run errands and that those errands would otherwise take up their evenings and weekends if they had to WOH ft. It made me curious because I just don't seem to have many errands to run at all. Are we just lazy :-)?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 3:17pm

Heh, I guess you don't live in an area where having kids after 35 is common. Where I live it's VERY common. Thus the ease of finding other childless couples who shared our income brackets and debt-less-ness.

I got a LOT of skiing in before kids because dh and I had the money, the childless friends, and the easy schedules. Yay for us!

(For anybody who wonders why we stopped, it had nothing to do with dd. We got spooked when a friend with lifelong ski skills hit black ice and became a quaddriplegic.)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 3:19pm
Apparently PNJ and I got to socialize expensively a lot more than you pre-kids because we are atypical. Yay for being atypical!
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 3:53pm

You're mistaken if you think I care to spin anything off into any direction. I'm merely going by what has been said in black and white here (at least under my account with iVillage). I continue to believe you cannot condemn somebody as less valuing of family based simply on one's being estranged from one or two relatives. Much of that is out of our hands and dictated by fate. I don't know that this message board even gives the full picture of anybody here, much less a full picture of a poster's relationships with family off the board. How could it? There's so much involved.

I always find it silly when posters venture into the next layer of a person's life and condemn their relationship with family members off the board, especially parents or even how one relates to children (as in sahms saying how much better their bond is with a child). Everything is not black and white about family relationships, including your being unable to travel abroad alone with your parent. That's wholly foreign to me. I've taken family vacations with in-laws and siblings too, but am well aware many could not stomach it. But thank you for explaining your particular situation.

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Registered: 11-10-2004
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 4:35pm

Pssst . . . PNJ. She cannot, no more than you can understand why on earth someone would give up a fulltime job and retirement benefits to work at home.

mom_writer

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Registered: 11-10-2004
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 4:40pm

I'll see your dress re-use and raise you $5. I wore my neighbor's mother of the bride dress for my second marriage -- and then gave it back to her when I was done. Why not? My first wedding dress, which cost me a small fortune, was still in its boxed grave and sitting in my former husband's garage.

I did, however, buy a nice pair of heels, which I now wear to temple. Tre tacky, I know.

mom_writer

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Fri, 09-09-2005 - 7:08pm

When we were in Joliet for my grampa's memorial service a couple weeks ago, we stayed at the same hotel as my aunt (the oldest of dad's 3 sisters--all his sibs are younger than he is), her dh and their kids/grandkids. We spent that Friday night at my aunt's room, schmoozing and going over our respective photo albums (we'd put together 4 large photo boards for the memorial service). We were looking at my aunt's wedding picture and my cousin said, "I wore that dress for my wedding, too."

My Mom was thrilled and flattered--she'd made the wedding dresses for all three of Dad's sisters. "I thought I'd only sewn for 3 brides; I sewed for 4!" It was really cool :)

And it means my cousin was married in a vintage, homemade 1950s dress :)

Karen


Think before you speak (or write) Yeah...like that's gonna work.....

Karen

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Sat, 09-10-2005 - 6:58am

It sounds like you're using children as an opportunity to enhance your social life finally. That can happen for many people who were not very social before children, and there's nothing wrong with that. Apparently, you are finally meeting other adults because you have kids in school or competitive sports.

Most children and adults who put the slightest effort into being outgoing and showing an interest in others they meet will have social opportunities their entire lives. Having friends is clearly not dependent on having a salary.

You are dismissing that your children are the reason your particular social life has finally improved. Just because salary and social life go hand-in-hand for you, doesn't mean that's the way it is for "most" people.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Sat, 09-10-2005 - 7:14am

It depends what age. Certainly high schoolers and college athletes are more likely to feel a loss than the 6 yr-old.

50% of children playing each soccer game are going to be the losers. Certainly the losing teammates won't be discussing sports at every turn or at all. What does that do to your theory that sports are discussed so often among children that those not on competitive teams suffer socially? Under your theory, the losing players suffer socially too. Add into that the group of children who don't even play competitive sports. Basically, in your opinion, only the few winners involved in competitive sports are fitting in socially because they have something to talk about. What a small minority of children who actually have friends, according to you. Definitely not my experience.

Your theory that the non-competitive child misses out socially falls apart bit by bit with each of your new theories.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Sat, 09-10-2005 - 7:21am
Are your sons into baseball? I read something recently where, if a child-pitcher works hard on pitching very fast in his/her early years, he/she will damage his/her arm to the detriment of any possible pitching success in later years. So the young Little Leaguer with the reputation of striking out every kid with his fastball, may not have a promising future. It's definitely attitudes like QM's that are the foundation for this problem.
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Sat, 09-10-2005 - 7:23am

Did you play sports? Which ones? Did you play in college?

Theories are great and you personally are able to do so much with them. But do you have any personal experience playing competitive ball to back up any of your theories?

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