What kind of errands....

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2005
What kind of errands....
2007
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 1:41pm

Do you run on a daily basis? Weekly basis? Monthly basis?

I've often heard people say that they need a lot of time during the week to run errands and that those errands would otherwise take up their evenings and weekends if they had to WOH ft. It made me curious because I just don't seem to have many errands to run at all. Are we just lazy :-)?

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 9:32pm

Who has expressed any dismay at all that her family is not "active" - other than herself? And please, give us any post which says her kids are "deprived" of anything, let alone the "'right' sporty activities," whatever the heck they're supposed to be.

"here's a strong pro-sports bias in the thread" - (1) nonsense, and (2) oh, the horror, the horror.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 9:41pm

So were we supposed to say, "Oh, yeah, it really is hard to be active any more when you have kids (even though it isn't) but it's really best for family life if you aren't as active anyway?"

And why would anyone think it was "hard" to get drunk if they had kids?

(P.S. - I would be amazed if she's ever kayaked in her entire life, let alone that she would bemoan not being able to do it like she used to.)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 9:42pm
Holy grail? Please. You're not helping your case.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 9:45pm
No, it's an "excuse," not a reason or an explanation, not because it's somehow preferable to do it otherwise, but because what she originally said was so utterly illogical.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 10:08pm
Would you believe she's in metro NYC (Connecticut)?! Yeah, they really roll up the carpet there at 5 pm. DC too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-15-2003
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 10:14pm

Maybe the fact that it wouldn't be" what it used to be" is what stops her. Maybe all the effort isn't worth the end result. With little kids, it takes a lot more effort to get all the gear together for an excursion or adventure and maybe after working hard all day or all week it just might

Meldi
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 10:21pm
It's not the "obvious choice" not to do something that's enjoyable unless you can't enjoy something if something MIGHT not go as hoped.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-15-2003
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 10:30pm

Oh, you know, with kids, you never know. We've had a lot of surprises (pleasant and unpleasant) but we just keep going at it. But, I SAH, so we have plenty of opportunities to try again and again. So, too many big kids at the park today? Let's try a different one tomorrow. Don't like riding in the boat? We'll try again next week.


If I WOH, came home every day after five and only had the weekends off, I might be less inclined to try different things all the time because my time with the kids would be more valuable. I'm just saying this with Aspen in mind, I really don't know about PNJ's kid's temperments. Aspen used to freak out a lot when faced with new situations. If I had limited time with her, I probably wouldn't put her into a lot of situations that might cause her to freak out, just to make our time together more enjoyable.


She's getting a lot better with that, though, every day. I think she's outgrowing it.


Meldi


Meldi
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 10:44pm

Honestly, no I don't. If PNJ is being "put on the defensive" it's simply a call to defend, rationally, her contention that she has no place to go because she has small children. Which hasn't happened.

There's a separate something going on with people who can't quite believe that it could be so exhausting for a 6 y/o to go to full time school that he shouldn't be enrolled in any outside activities, but that's by no means unanimous. Even I, who am as tired ot PNJ's illogical whining as anyone else, understand that it's probably not a good idea to introduce too many new activities at a time when a kid is undergoing a major life adjustment. I think she's right holding off for the moment, for what it's worth.

As for a "pro-sports bias," maybe, maybe not. Most of us believe in the value of having our kids participate in some level of organized sports or we wouldn't be doing it. But when we look at what we mean by "active family life" here I am seeing family travel, music lessons, foreign language lessons, scouting, church groups and all kinds of other organized activities that have little to do with a "pro sports bias."

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 11:39pm

Well, she's having a little confusion about what constitutes a town or city anyway. Considering she describes Philadelphia, which is, what, the fifth largest US city? as "the country. Industrial with lots of smoke and stuff."

Doesn't it make you kind of wonder if she's ever been in "the country" or indeed, anywhere off of her own street?

Pages