What kind of errands....
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What kind of errands....
| Wed, 08-31-2005 - 1:41pm |
Do you run on a daily basis? Weekly basis? Monthly basis?
I've often heard people say that they need a lot of time during the week to run errands and that those errands would otherwise take up their evenings and weekends if they had to WOH ft. It made me curious because I just don't seem to have many errands to run at all. Are we just lazy :-)?


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Well, one response could be, "Yeah, we can see how it *might* be harder *for you* to remain as active as you were, or would like to have been, or would still like to be, now that you have kids, what with all the details, planning, PITA extraneous factors, etc., but in the long run, it's pretty much a neutral decision."
I get it that PNJ appears to be using her kids as a reason to be less active and not necessarily owning up to that. But I question whether that lack of upfrontness is any more to be frowned upon than the responses that uphold the active family as some sort of ideal that she might be falling short of.
I don't know about you, but it is harder for me to get drunk with kids for lots of reasons. Setting a bad example, not having adult parties as often as family-based parties any more, and so on. My therapist thinks I should imbibe a little more!
And, I don't know PNJ half as well as board veterans, but I'm sure you're right about her kayaking history or lack thereof.
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I suppose for the sake of the rules by which the board operates, it's a "violation" for PNJ not to come right out and say that she doesn't do a lot of the other sporty things with her family that other families represented here might be doing just because she doesn't really want to or because it's too much of a pain.
But what I don't understand is why there seems to be as much interest in faulting her for not being a properly active family, for whatever reason, as in calling her on her lack of forthrightness about why she eschews these family activities. IMO, it reflects a certain bias about how families ought to live today. To the point where even her son's response to full day school gets involved with the argument, which as you point out is really separate.
"But I question whether that lack of upfrontness is any more to be frowned upon than the responses that uphold the active family as some sort of ideal that she might be falling short of." For the umpteenth time, please point to a single such response.
Before or after DS, I was never remotely interested in getting drunk, so whether it is "harder" or not for me is something that has never come up in fact.
Edited 9/3/2005 12:05 pm ET by dogma_2
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