What kind of errands....

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What kind of errands....
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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 1:41pm

Do you run on a daily basis? Weekly basis? Monthly basis?

I've often heard people say that they need a lot of time during the week to run errands and that those errands would otherwise take up their evenings and weekends if they had to WOH ft. It made me curious because I just don't seem to have many errands to run at all. Are we just lazy :-)?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 1:44pm

I fully acknowledge that Felicia's post indicate ambivalence or confusion, in that her complaints don't admit her own complicity in the "facts on the ground" that create them.

What I'm talking about is my impression that she's being called to task for something more than that, namely, letting her lifestyle choices interfere with her ds' preparedness for full day kindergarten. Earlier today, I posted to dogma and to sun'nsand about a couple of posts of dogma's that seem meaningful to me in this regard.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 1:52pm

You're right, I told you the wrong post, and you found the right one.

But if you "strongly suspect" that Felicia has decided in advance that sports are not for her kids, despite her assertion that she actually does understand their needs and interests, then I "strongly suspect" it has been decided that what's really going on is that Felicia is slacking by using her current non-sportiness and/or her kids' fatigue in school as an excuse not to "go for the gusto". I mean, the idea that one is supposed to build up a kid's stamina and hence their school readiness by working out with them or some such, as per one of lois' posts... If my pediatrician suggested a thing like that to me, I'd think she was off her nut.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 2:08pm

It's not K, it's first grade. He went to half day K last year, so this is the transition between 15 hours a week of school and 30 hours a week of school.

I do think that people whose kids haven't had any trouble making that transition are finding it a little wierd here that some kids might. My kids didn't in first grade but there is no way I would have put my older one into full day K -- he, like Felicia's boy, was young for grade -- so while the issue is different by one year (it was K I was worried about, not first grade) I can understand Felicia's reluctance to "rock the boat" by introducing a lot of new activities at the same time.

At the same time, it's my contention that had the child already been involved in an outside activity that he enjoyed, there would be no reason to stop it, either, just to give him time to adjust to first grade, because it wouldn't be two new activities in that case.

If Petey is the kind of kid who is more content to hang around the house and truly hasn't had a lot of interest in outside activities, well, no problem. What some people are a little suspicious about is whether the child has actually had the opportunity to explore options he might enjoy. My older one would never have been interested in sports on his own, but almost because he isn't a natural athlete we did want him to try something while he was young and everybody was learning rather than wait until he was eight or nine and the more natural athletes already had two or three seasons' experience. Because it kind of turns out that being good at a sport is a real mark of social success in most groups of elementary age boys. Never mind the physical benefits. I don't know Felicia's feelings about the whole sports thing because she hasn't, to my knowledge, ever talked about them. But if you are seeing a "pro sports bias" it's because I think a lot of us have recognized that there are advantages to most kids in playing organized sports from time to time. Just like there are advantages to introducing music lessons or foreign language lessons early.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 2:14pm
They aren't meaningful in that regard. I never said one thing about there being anything wrong with it if her children are tired after school - because I don't think there's anything wrong with it if her children are tired after school. The second post to which you refer, she had specifically asked me if I had the impression that the rate at which her children tire has anything to do with anything she does/doesn't do. The answer to that is, very likely. That doesn't include any value judgment. That's a statement of fact. Whether or not he is tired after school also doesn't indicate one single thing about his "preparedness" for full day school. You're really, really, reaching.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 2:32pm

Horse puckey. No one, least of all Lois, has been promoting some "idea" that anyone is "supposed" to build up a kid's readiness for school. That post, to which you refer, was in response to one of CM's, asking what one might do IF one wanted to build up a child's stamina. No value judgment as to whether anyone, least of all Felicia, "should."

Is there a reason I should believe Felicia's bald assertion that her 3 and 5 YO kids wouldn't be interested in any type of sports? I don't see any reason to find that credible if they've never been exposed to them. Do you?

Once again. I couldn't care less if she or any member of her family ever gets off her couch. I just don't want to listen to her place blame on her kids for her own lack of interest in doing so.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 2:47pm

Sorry that people interpreted my posts in this thread as whining.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 3:08pm
BTDT with Turkey. Moved there when our DDs were 7,5 and 16 months and lived there for two years. That was one thing that I liked about our military life, I did things that I would not normally have left my comfort zone to do on my own.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 3:56pm
That's cool. We'd probably take our kids to Turkey if we could find somebody to foot part of the bill. That's the only way we can take extended trips to Europe -- get paid to do it.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 4:38pm
SM's therapist didn't suggest I imbibe more often. And more children wouldn't fetter me in the least. Fettered with children is your personal issue.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 9:27pm

It certainly does.

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