What kind of errands....

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Registered: 08-27-2005
What kind of errands....
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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 1:41pm

Do you run on a daily basis? Weekly basis? Monthly basis?

I've often heard people say that they need a lot of time during the week to run errands and that those errands would otherwise take up their evenings and weekends if they had to WOH ft. It made me curious because I just don't seem to have many errands to run at all. Are we just lazy :-)?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 12:12pm

Depends on what you mean by cycle through.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 12:57pm
No, you're patently clueless. Reread the original sentence. It talks of PRETENDING to "really really really" want to do something.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 1:01pm
"Of course it's because of the kids." No, it simply isn't. It's because one has the personality type to throw up one's hands in the air and be defeated if one might have to deviate in the slightest from their pre-kid agenda. "IMO, to decide it's not always worthwhile is as valid as deciding to go for it regardless of kids." Absolutely! But that's completely the adult's decision, and it's silly to pretend otherwise.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 1:17pm

I don't see people giving her suggestions for how to do activities. That's because, you're right, we all know she doesn't want to do them. She just wants to complain that she "can't." Which people have (successfully) shown to be false by listing the ways they can be done. Not the same as giving her advice.

I don't care any more if she is flexible or not than I care if she is "sporty" or not. I just would like her to stop using the presence of her children on the planet as an excuse not to eat the cake she doesn't want to have.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 1:26pm
It scares me to see Highschool Hotrods careening around anywhere. I don't tend to wish no one else was on the road when they were.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 2:43pm
That hasn't been my experience at all. Both my kids have always told DH and me what to sign them up for.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 2:51pm
Of course it's the adult's decision; who else can decide. But it's silly to say kids don't change things, sometimes to the point where one would rather forego an activity, even after making reasonable adjustments and accommodations. And that really is directly due to the fact of the kids. It's a combination of the difference kids make and the difference in the adult attitude that might result in. The adult doesn't decide in a vacuum, as if with or without kids are equivalent.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 2:55pm
Mine do too, now -- at ages 9 and 13. The last few years the problem has been trying to get them to limit their activities to a reasonable number. But when they were smaller, it was different. They weren't interested in art camp because they had never been to art camp or even heard of art camp. But they liked art, so I signed them up for art camp. If they hadn't liked it, we wouldn't have gone back. My older son was a little slow with his gross motor development, so I signed him up for a TumbleBee class (preschool gymnastics). They weren't begging to go to children's concerts or plays when they were small, but I wanted them to experience those things, so I took them. Stuff like that.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 3:03pm
Kids don't have the power to change things for adults. Adults' reactions to kids changes things for adults.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 3:48pm
"Kids don't hyave the power to change things for adults." Of course they do! Merely by existing, they mandate that their parents do certain things. Kids dictate what cars their parents can buy (there must be accomodation for car seats). Kids dictate when parents can go out (only when somebody else is there to take care of the kids). And so on and so on and on. Parent are forbidden to do things just like they did before kids. It's not a power kids asked for ("I didn't ask to be born!" they will sometimes say), but they have it nonetheless. And woe to any parent who actually believes that "kids don't have the power to change things for adults" and actually...don't change. They will be hearing from CPS.

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