what made you decide to do what you do?

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what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 12:34pm
That IS the way it is and how it has been for 2 years. Others have said here their experiences were with parents doing all the fluff planning. Ours is not that way. Simple to understand really, very simply.
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 12:35pm
Excuse me, but I did post about her soccer activities. And as far as double-speak, YOU were the one who initially accused me of forcing my children into things. Short term memory loss already dear? I simply stated that I felt that too many activities cut into family time, and that was why we kept them to one activity per season. I did not once state "I would never" in regards to activities. I responded to petenjoeys in that her children dont like sports, stating that I would never force my child into a sport if they didnt want to do it.

So perhaps you should re-read your own posts and pay attention to the topic yourself. I think you are the one having a difficult time comprehending things here.

dj

Dj

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 12:37pm
No, now that just sounds like you concede the point. L.O.L. How about something like this:

"No, you don't understand. What I meant was, I know the teachers and principal, from the last school, personally. They no longer have a vested intersest in keeping me happy. They are friends, we socialize, they share stuff."

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 12:37pm
Yep and your kids are forced into hockey. We're even I guess.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 12:40pm
What are you talking about? And why the personal attacks? Cant come up with anything more intelligent than that? What, did I get under your skin a bit and hit too close to home?

dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 12:51pm
Well, I am most certainly not here just to agree with masses. Here as in on the board, or here as living my life out.

After that response, I know you concede the point. Did you really never think about it before? Just followed the mass opinions. I hate that in people who are supposed to be parents.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 12:54pm
Well then let me give you another example. I just planned a teacher appreciation luncheon in our school and, yes, they really like it. And teachers do like the parents to volunteer and be involved, but not too much.

Take for example our Halloween parade. For the past few years, the kids had a Halloween parade and then a class party. This has grown into such a large event that the teachers don't like it anymore. There are too many parents in the school and it is disruptive to the school day (not like it hasn't already been disrupted with the costume parade). We had a big fight with the teachers in the beginning of the school year about letting parents attend class parties at all. If it was up to them, they would have one room mom and a helper and that is all. There were a lot of hurt feelings and one potential law suit against an especially passionate parent. I am not sure what is going to happen next year. We try to keep things neat, clean, and organized just as they request but somebody still complains.

I know that everything is always hunky dorie in LaLa Land. But in the real world, conflicts to arise and not just with Opinion. The teachers don't always want the parents in their faces all of the time. They like the volunteers to be their on their terms. I am actually friends with many of the teachers but some of them make things tough.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 12:55pm
Uh, you need serious help. A wide range of body types can be really quite unhealthy. Most doctors are concerned over women who lose weight while pregnant. For good reason. Unless of course, they were so far overweight to begin with, that the weight loss still ammounts to a health benefit. Although, I already know, you doctor tells you all the time how you are the picture of health, and your son too. So you can save yourself typing...I can guess already.
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 12:58pm
Huh? You do realize, they just played hockey for the first time this year, and that neither my husband, nor I have ever played, or even followed the game?

Like I said, its fun to let your kids decide where family interests go sometimes. Very life enhancing.

I don't think we're even. Try again.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 12:59pm
Like WHAT don't you understand?

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