what made you decide to do what you do?

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what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:21pm
LOl I'd NEVEr agree with you on anything because you are too far fetched for real life! Way out there, bizarre world!

We don't socialize as in dinner or going to one anothers homes. But we have become friends. Gasp! You can't be friends with your administrative and teaching staff there?

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:25pm
I live in Kentucky not la-la land and everything has went smoothly for 2 years, what can I say. It's been a breeze. The teachers do most of the coming up with ideas of fluff and ask the parents to incorporate, plan, set it up. We parents come up w/a few ideas but not all that many during Aug-May school schedule. The teachers are begging at our school for parents to come in. Perhaps that isn't your, opinion, or others experiences but I keep getting this info straight from the school, straight from the teachers in both written and oral communication. I don't think they'd ask for something they don't desire, or at least they shouldn't. The volunteering IS on the teacher's terms, nothing can be done, no volunteering can be done unless ran by the teacher (and in some cases the principal) first. A father or mother just doesn't show up to say I'm here to do this fluff activity or I'm here to work in the classroom for x amount of time. Just doesn't happen at our school. Maybe others, not here in central ky at our little school.
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Registered: 05-13-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:26pm
What a lame respnse. Try harder. Of course my child has friends, but at 8:00 on a school night, they are home. Since we don't allow TV on school nights, my son would rather play chess, or some other board game with us or his brother. Playing with other children is not an option, the homes aren't close together so that kids can run to eachothers houses, they have to be driven, and I know of no kids at that age out and about after dinnertime.

We have multiple controllers, we have XBOX, but no, I've never played video games with my kids, and I never intend to. They can play with their friends, but even when a friend comes over I limit the video games, I'd rather they interact with a person, rather than a box, when they have the opportunity.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:28pm
You must not know much about running.

Dj

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:30pm
Oh, so your DOES have a sport. No, I mean sports. Swimming would be a sport. So would golf -although personally I'm not sure of the physical benefits of golf all on its own. Still, its a sport with all those other benefits. Wow. That schedules getting busy, with all those swimming lessons, and now golf too? Do you think he'll do more than just badges? Might he for his bronze medallion and all whatever it takes to become a lifeguard - or might he, with all that interest and possibly ability - be eventually invited to try out for a swim team. Whatever will you do.

You know what, maybe, in the future, kill all that researching. Just let him join what he wants with his classmates and the neighbourhood kids. That parental-project thing has just got to be a serious damper. And I don't know any kids, persoanlly, who were ever "encouraged" into viewing sports. Its dull for kids. First they play, then they might grow into wanting to watch their sport, sometimes. Really.

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Registered: 05-13-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:31pm
Oh I was rude???? Really, was that after you called me a liar, or before you told me my husband should divorce me? Unbelievable.

You obviously have some reason for me not wanting to know what you do. The truth hurts I suppose.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:32pm
So are you saying that there is no advantage or nothing to be gained from downtime?
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:34pm
But that is just my point. In your little school in LaLa Land, Kentucky, things run just peachy all of the time. You talk about it as if that is the case everywhere and bash Opinion because her experience is different. I am telling you that Opinions scenario is probably closer to reality. Sometimes the teachers want you there, and sometimes it is too much for them. People don't always get along simply because you say they do. You are saying that the parents completely bend to the will of the teachers in everything. In my school, the parents sometimes question the rules of the school. I think that is the more usual scenario.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:40pm
My problem was your attacking her mobilehome (I forget the exact term she used) - I didn't see how the fact they use it to travel excluded their participating in sports or other family oriented activities.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:40pm
Ok, I think I've slowed down almost enough.

Lets see.

Mon/Fri. Dad drives both to gym. He takes the first one at 4:15 (and picks up two more on the way) and leaves our son to play in after care. Then he goes home, gets supper started, goes to pick up the second at 5:30, does supper, and takes him to gym too at 6:30. I pick one up.

Tues. Music is across the street. They walk.

Wed.

Thurs. Dad drives daughter to brownies, I pick up.

Sat. Hockey, we go together.

Sun. Hockey, we go together. I drove skiing, my husband drove to soccer.

What part of that is difficult to understand? You do need two cars, unless you want to car pool, or send your kids around in cabs. Both which people do regularily. For now we are strictly the service providing end of carpooling, but that will probably change eventually.

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