what made you decide to do what you do?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:43pm
Yeah I didnt know that owning a camper excluded one from any other activities, lol!

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 05-13-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:44pm
God Opinion, don't you get tired of making a fool of yourself by pretending to know absolutely everything? I too lost 12 lbs. with one pregnancy and 10 with another, both times in the first 4 months due to hyperemises (basically puking non-stop).

I eventually gained the weight back and then some, but it's a condition that isn't uncommon or dangerous to mother or baby.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:50pm
The only thing I will concede to is that whatever point you have is so muddled that it only gets the board going. Any point you have gets lost. That is because your desire to get the board riled is far greater than making any well intentioned point. And proof of that is that you usually resort to veiled insults towards the end. I totally see the "game" you play on the board. And I do find it amusing.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:52pm
You do realize that not everyone is able to focus on fitness when they are having work, family, life crises? Or do you think that everyone's life is such a straight line that they should be able to be physically fit at all times, including immediately after giving birth?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:52pm
Have you seen ANYONE, actually do this.

See, I am living the life. Take out food has little place in it. Most kids don't have activities 5 days a week that go from 4:00-7:30. And those that do (grab your socks) usually have a light snack and then a light supper afterwards. Call a gym or something where kids acutally do this stuff, and find out how it really works. Because if you are kidding yourself that your kid can't do more than one thing, becusae you'd need to do take out, you are saddly mistaken.

I'll clue you in. Ia coach finds out a kids diet is primarily take out? Guess what will happen next? Can you guess? Anyone else with kids here who actually participate in sports, can help this poster out? Homework is another issue. Slipping school grades, not good. Lack of sleep, worse yet. Lets just say, those that feed their kids on the run, in the car, 7 days a week, while pushing two hours of hw till after 8pm, 5 days a week...probably aren't going to have much opportunity for the kids to achieve much at all. Not gradeschool kids. My kid does rep soccer. Its pretty clearly stated in the rules...homework is done BEFORE games. Its not just that they have an interest in the kids academic life...children who have stuff on their minds bothering them, with hastily quaffed meals in their tummies, don't...do well. Seriously, I think you made this all up. Not only does it NOT work out the way you'd like to pretend...it CAN'T.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:55pm
I thought I was supposed to continually expose him to different sports, so he wouldn't realize that playing at least one sport was a requirement? How is it forcing him to learn to swim if he's not had lessons yet?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:57pm
Shes never been told that. Where did you get that idea?

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:58pm
Please don't be offended - I know you can defend yourself - but I just wanted to jump in there.....

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 1:59pm
Hah! What a strawman. I suppose you've never heard of dance, bicycling, walking, jumping rope, playing tag, etc. There are many ways to be active and healthy outside of soccer. And I must have missed the study that correlates disliking sports with playing electronic games. Puleaze, just b/c we're not schlepping off to the soccer field 5x/wk doesn't mean we're sitting around playing computer games.
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 2:00pm
Are we talking about kids here? They do their sports because its fun. But I assure you, the house leagues - seen it with soccer, hockey - where they don't keep score for the little kids? Its a sham. The kids keep score. They know, they care, they like to compete. They are also aware of the relative talents of other kids, as compared to themseleves. Parents can kill the enthusiasm by a)over doing the competitive thing, that is well known or by b) refusing to acknowledge the compettive thing, not so well known. This last is the case where kids are directed by parents to exercise jealousy towards more competent kids.

At a certain point, if the kid doesn't feel they are achieving something personally, the fun will go away. Kids like to have a point to what they are doing. "Because Mommy signed me up" looses its luster rather quickly.

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