what made you decide to do what you do?

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what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 4:06pm
The difference between my world and yours, is mine actually exists.


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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 4:10pm
No, not the case everywhere. I can only speak of my own personal experiences and of the two I know about with 2 sils and their individual county school systems. We all have 2 years experience each with our respective schools. Ours is very alike (good thing since I want to move to public school and I want to move to one of these counties for public school, that is why I'm so very interested in their experiences and why we talk so extensively and in depth on the school subject, I'm learning so we can plan where to finally move in a few years).

You took my wording out of context, I'm sorry, I did not mean to imply my experience is universal. Like with anything else in life, universally true doesn't fit imho.

Opinions experiences on several things and her opinion on several things are just too far way out there and not factual for here. But I don't discount those because they are true for her, they are true for her experiences (although she spends quite a few posts spewing she doesn't believe what others post).

Your experience is also vastly different than here, but I'm not saying your experience is untrue, far from it, it is true because that is your experience and it is totally opposite from here.

Parents also question things at our school. Believe me, we've had several uproars and concerns to be addressed and there are a few more that will be from the rumblings I'm hearing before the next school year starts late August. We are no more immune to that than anyone else. Both sils have mentioned things also, pretty natural here in our world.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 4:14pm
No. Sorry. Scarbble? Pictionnary? Oh please. No, not stimulating. Good for rainy days, or social gatherings.

Now, you should try more playstation. Our nintendo is not, as I've said, used much. Pretty much only a)the first week of so when we get a new game b)when a bunch of kids are over on a rainy day. THE weekly nintendo thing happens Fridays, at aftercare. Thats the day nintendo is allowed, and its very social.

But really, during winter storms you get stuck in the house with nothing better to do than playstation? Seriously. I'm in Canada. Winter storms mean a couple things a)toboganning b)and after the roads are clear and visibility improves - skiing. I don't think we've ever had a 24 hour stretch of storm that did not allow several hours of toboganning. I don't think you could find a kid to play playstation with on a Canadian snow day.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 4:16pm
I'm sorry, what did I say about chess? Other than, surely in an area like yours, your son could find other children of similar interests, so that he wouldn't have to beg you to play.

And no. I don't think kids who spend all their time at chess are doing a great thing. If they can do it in addition to sports and activity - fine. But no way is it a good "instead of".

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 4:19pm
Yes, I've played chess.

6-7 hours of school 5 days a week, plus reading and homework...cultivates enough of a mental life for my kids. They like to learn and go find things out. Good enough for me.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 4:22pm
I do care what my kids do. I'm trying to encourage them to develop a healthy active lifestyle. As I said, it goes along with eating, bed times, and everything else. I very much care.

Now, my kids also ride bikes while I run. I'm sure I mentionned that somewhere, so try again.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 4:24pm
Right. Great conversations while running. Ok. Is that when you throw your workout so your daughter can keep up?
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 4:25pm
Why can't you run if you have a child?
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 4:29pm
Well life does exist here in Central Kentucky and just because it is not in the same ballpark (pun intended) that you deem as life or what is worthy in life doesn't change the FACT it is THE ReAL WORLD and it is FACTUAL.

Just because you wouldn't choose my or other's lifestyles. Just because you wouldn't raise your kids the way myself and others have chosen. Just because you think daycare is this great opportunity and others like myself don't. Just because your experiences are yours certainly does make my or others lives non-existent.

You just can't handle people who think totally on the opposite side of the coin from you? Who live totally opposite lives than you? Who actually are following their own dreams that are so different from you? You just can't accept that your way isn't the only way or it is non-existent, can you? What is your problem? I see your life for what it is, it is yours. You have made choices, you have opinions, you are raising your children as you deem fit and best. Well, the rest of us are doing the same thing and we don't feel any need to take advice from you or follow your highway. We have our own minds and hearts and we are actually living the life style we have chosen as we desired.

There are plenty of us housewives who are happy. There are plenty of us parents who are happy. We are living our pursued dreams. You can live yours. I don't deem your experiences and life as non-existent because I don't doubt at all that this is true for you and your part of the world, but don't doubt my life for the same reasons.

When you see you can't change minds and life styles you tend to throw out insults or decide you are debating against a bunch of fakes. Sorry, but in my case, you are far from wrong. What I've said is ever bit true.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 4:33pm
One thing I have noticed about mothers, by and large. After giving birth, they are quickly again what they were before. I don't know if I can think of a single active Mom, who lost her lifestyle after giving birth. Not the aggressive ones who did triathlons, not the laid back ones who took off by themselves to swim laps 3 times a week. None who actually had activity as a part of their lives. I know lots who never were active though, then totally lost it after giving birth.

No, I didn't have that out of shape for years thing going on after giving birth. And I was in good company. But as I said, the company was of a particular ilk. They were already healthy and active before hand, they just kept going afterwards, scaled back somewhat, but going forward with the activity as before just the same.

I'd love to see a study on this.

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