what made you decide to do what you do?
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what made you decide to do what you do?
| Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm |
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:
Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?
What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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You took my wording out of context, I'm sorry, I did not mean to imply my experience is universal. Like with anything else in life, universally true doesn't fit imho.
Opinions experiences on several things and her opinion on several things are just too far way out there and not factual for here. But I don't discount those because they are true for her, they are true for her experiences (although she spends quite a few posts spewing she doesn't believe what others post).
Your experience is also vastly different than here, but I'm not saying your experience is untrue, far from it, it is true because that is your experience and it is totally opposite from here.
Parents also question things at our school. Believe me, we've had several uproars and concerns to be addressed and there are a few more that will be from the rumblings I'm hearing before the next school year starts late August. We are no more immune to that than anyone else. Both sils have mentioned things also, pretty natural here in our world.
Now, you should try more playstation. Our nintendo is not, as I've said, used much. Pretty much only a)the first week of so when we get a new game b)when a bunch of kids are over on a rainy day. THE weekly nintendo thing happens Fridays, at aftercare. Thats the day nintendo is allowed, and its very social.
But really, during winter storms you get stuck in the house with nothing better to do than playstation? Seriously. I'm in Canada. Winter storms mean a couple things a)toboganning b)and after the roads are clear and visibility improves - skiing. I don't think we've ever had a 24 hour stretch of storm that did not allow several hours of toboganning. I don't think you could find a kid to play playstation with on a Canadian snow day.
And no. I don't think kids who spend all their time at chess are doing a great thing. If they can do it in addition to sports and activity - fine. But no way is it a good "instead of".
6-7 hours of school 5 days a week, plus reading and homework...cultivates enough of a mental life for my kids. They like to learn and go find things out. Good enough for me.
Now, my kids also ride bikes while I run. I'm sure I mentionned that somewhere, so try again.
Just because you wouldn't choose my or other's lifestyles. Just because you wouldn't raise your kids the way myself and others have chosen. Just because you think daycare is this great opportunity and others like myself don't. Just because your experiences are yours certainly does make my or others lives non-existent.
You just can't handle people who think totally on the opposite side of the coin from you? Who live totally opposite lives than you? Who actually are following their own dreams that are so different from you? You just can't accept that your way isn't the only way or it is non-existent, can you? What is your problem? I see your life for what it is, it is yours. You have made choices, you have opinions, you are raising your children as you deem fit and best. Well, the rest of us are doing the same thing and we don't feel any need to take advice from you or follow your highway. We have our own minds and hearts and we are actually living the life style we have chosen as we desired.
There are plenty of us housewives who are happy. There are plenty of us parents who are happy. We are living our pursued dreams. You can live yours. I don't deem your experiences and life as non-existent because I don't doubt at all that this is true for you and your part of the world, but don't doubt my life for the same reasons.
When you see you can't change minds and life styles you tend to throw out insults or decide you are debating against a bunch of fakes. Sorry, but in my case, you are far from wrong. What I've said is ever bit true.
No, I didn't have that out of shape for years thing going on after giving birth. And I was in good company. But as I said, the company was of a particular ilk. They were already healthy and active before hand, they just kept going afterwards, scaled back somewhat, but going forward with the activity as before just the same.
I'd love to see a study on this.
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