what made you decide to do what you do?

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what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 5:13pm
LOL.. That's actually funny!
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 5:17pm
P&J, if it makes you feel any better, I had a very hard time getting back into shape after DS was born. I have been running since HS, when I was on the x-country and track teams, and also had a respectable time for 5 and 10K. I had never been overweight. I got pregnant and was told my doctor, after month 3, to stop running. So I walked every day instead. I ended up having toxima (sp?) and gained about 30 pounds of water weight. Plus I had a c-section. And I B/F. I didn't really get back into running until DS was 2, although I did try. Just didn't well trying to work FT and take care of him. Plus, I was emotionally exhausted too.

I'm still 10 pounds over what I was when I first got pregnant. It's been hard. I did lose it when I ran my marathon, but gained it back. I just don't have the time nor energy to be running 18 and 20 milers on the weekend.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 5:18pm
I'm wondering a little about your posting style. Things make a lot more sense if I pretend you're speaking facetiously. So do you disagree with the masses for the sake of disagreeing, or do you base your opinion on actual values and convictions and they just turn out to be different than the masses?
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 5:23pm
I personally don't care what the answers to the questions are. It's just a terrible irony that you go on about people talking around things without answering when you do it yourself so often, whether it be something stupid (like when your kids eat, who cares) or a philosophical points. I have really enjoyed your posts in the past hoever recently they just seem catty and accusatory. Which is a completely ineffective debate technique.
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 5:23pm
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Maybe you can TELL me how I'll be able to get off work at 4pm and have my son at a practice that's already started? Please, enlighten me. And, by the way, your younger one is 6. Mine is almost 5. Not a huge difference in our experience there, now is it?

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So, the entire world offers schedules like the ones you've got? And cost won't be a factor because my kids won't be doing multiple activities. When do your KIDS spend time with each other? Mine are 3 years apart too and I don't see many activities that they'll be doing together in the future.

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That's hysterical. My DH is in sales. Wednesdays are his only late days when he arrives home at 7pm. He's already home when I arrive at 5pm on Mondays and Tuesdays. Many times, he has surprised us all and come home at 1 or 2pm. He has a fantastic schedule, but there can be meetings that would conflict with a hefty weekly schedule like yours. His agenda is not set in stone. Perhaps you would suggest he get another job? One that suits the extra-curricular schedules of our children.....

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The activities themselves? None whatsoever. It's the number that's frightening. Regardless of whether they're being dragged or not, it's too much. They don't have to dislike it for it to possibly harm them. When is their down time? When do they act like the kids they are? Can they think for themselves or do they have to have constant direction?

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Where do you come up with this stuff? I started playing soccer when I was 6 YEARS OLD. 30 years ago when soccer wasn't as popular for girls as it is now. I played throughout childhood and in high school. And, guess what? At 35, I'd still be playing now in my women's league had I not blown out my knee for the second time.

And I've BEEN to Canada. Both of my parents are from Canada. I was conceived in Canada. For some reason, my parents couldn't wait to GET OUT of Canada. Perhaps they met you? LOL. :P

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 5:27pm
job 8-5

dd 10 months and does not like being in the jogging stroller

I want to spend my non-working hours in activites that involve my dd
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 5:31pm
Sure. If you were active pre-mom then you're more *likely* to be active post and if you were sedentary pre-mom then you're more *likely* to be sedentary post

HOWEVER, becoming a mom *does* change many things. I used to run marathons and swim laps pre-momdom, but it's hard to run at the level necessary to run marathons after the baby (see my previous post)
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 5:35pm
You make absolutely no sense. But I am sure you know that already!

Actually being in theater and the arts is a commitment as sports is. And btw I never said you can't balance both. What I did say, however, is that there are children out there who may not have a strong interest in sports. They may be active, ut choose to spend their time doing other things besides competitive sports.

But you knew that anyway!

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 5:41pm
Agree. I went back to work 6 weeks after my dd was born and so much for the best laid plans to use my lunch hour to exercise in my office. All i can say is that there is a yoga mat in my office still waiting to be opened.

(Opinion is probably going to say, "why *aren't* you using it?" Because there are only so much of me to go around and I decided that I'd rather use my lunch hour to do work so that I can go home on time to spend with my family.)
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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 5:43pm
And also, I have been involved in the theater for years and never had any "formal" dance background. So you really do not know of what you speak.


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