what made you decide to do what you do?

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what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 8:29pm
You are a one note instrument. The thing about posting here is that one can give only a brief synopsys of what really happened. My stepsons all played basketball, baseball, and soccer in their seasons. The middle one did swimming also. The oldest loved baseball and made it to the league above Babe Ruth (don't know what you call it in Canada, but he was pretty good and could have gone on if he had wanted too). He also played on his HS team.

The middle one HATED sports with a capital H. He tried swimming but really, he was much better off playing the piano and doing theater, where he thrived.

The youngest loved basketball, hated baseball. Used to beg and cry to not go. The Y started a summer roller hockey league, which I coached for a season. He loved that -- as did I. He also played trumpet well into HS.

I have mixed feelings about organized sports -- all from my first hand experience. I think sports do teach kids alot of good things, but I also don't like what it does to them. I did not like hearing the baseball coaches call the boys "pu$$y" "c*nt" "sissy" and other derogatory terms. I didn't like it that parents stood on the sides of soccer fields and had meltdowns just because little Johnny missed a goal. I felt downright crappy when a girl -- who was *as good* as the boys -- was harassed when she played baseball with them. Sometimes visiting teams refused to play when she was on the field. Even now, ten years later, in our so-called "enlightned" era, the team from Providence, Rhode Island (a gay mecca in case you don't know) is routinely harassed by other teams with the terms, "Queer," "faggot" and "homo." And I'm sure you know about the father that killed the other father at a hockey practice here in Mass.

What you are trying to say in your prolific postings (I think), is that children need to be well-rounded and sports are part of that. I agree. But to force a child to do *anything* is not good parenting. If my son doesn't want to play sports, he won't. But he's also not going to be sitting on the couch eating cheesy poofs either.

outside_the_box_mom

PS -- now, do you think you can actually respond without being nasty and condescending?

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 8:42pm
Well-My ds is usually at the finish line waiting for me to finish! How depressing is that. He runs 5K 5 minutes faster than I do. Bummer.

Jenna

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 8:56pm
actually, loosing weight during a pregnancy is not recommend...no matter how heavy you are. The baby can't get all it needs from it's mother's fat reservers, no matter how large they may be.

What is recommened it healthy eating and moderate exercise...and of course they don't need to gain the recommend 25-35 pounds....but most would like to see at least a 15 pound weight gain during the pregnancy.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 9:01pm
You have just uplifted my day, love this quirky and funny post that is soooooooooooooo true!!!!

OMG you've got the postings pegged just right.

No, if opinion doesn't see the tree fall then it really didn't happen and well, how could it because that is impossible in the first place LMAO

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 9:23pm
OMG! YOU mean they might PICK UP A BOOK and READ???? OH, the HORRORS of it! SAY it isn't so!!!! BWHAHAHAHAHAHAHH!!!!!

Thanks for the first True Laugh of the day.....Yeah, what a waste for them to pick up a book and READ, ROFLOL!

eileen

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 9:29pm
Do you EVER have anthing NICE or POSITIVE to say to anyone??? BLECH!!!!! I'm just glad i'm not with you on that awfully high stone pillar.....

YUCK. Your condescending, nasty posts know no bounds....

eileen

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 9:39pm
Yes, it is so nice that we don't have to worry about you being nice and understanding, isn't it? Actually, at that time (pregnancy #3) i was still about a size 16/18 -- average for me.

No, didn't think you could post anything lower than what you did above to 1969Jets....Guess i was wrong? And maybe if i keep surfing my way down the board, i'll find some from you that are even nastier?

Have you thought about taking a break from this board? You're posts are really quite negative and nasty and really have added nothing of substantive value here lately.

BLECH.

Eileen

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 9:43pm
Given that reading is such an overrated hobby, I'm surprised your dd does so much of it. Better be careful, after all, if she develops a love of reading she might morph into a couch potato.

I'm quite sure you were the one bemoaning the lack of unsupervised children's play a few months ago. What changed your mind? Yes, their play spans several yards, at times, even the whole block.

Dd had the option of being on the swim team at the local Y, it's not that exclusive. You pay your fee, you join the team. I'm sure it gets tougher as they go on but she has no desire to be an olympic swimmer, so why ruin her summer?

Most avid readers I know don't care for gaming systems. Of course, they aren't reading the latest romance novel, either. Apparently you know very little of brain function. When someone is sitting in front of a tv screen or computer screen, his brain waves are only slightly more active than when he is sleeping. When he is reading (even trashy stuff) his brain waves are much more active. Reading requires the brain to function, it has to translate the words on the page into a coherent thought, and then, for good readers, into a mental picture. Watching, otoh, requires no such translation. The information is immediately available and takes much less mental acumen to access.

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 10:00pm
Wow, haven't been active on this board in a while, but I just had to jump in on this thread...

Obviously you never suffered from the inability to keep food down during the early months of pregnancy. I am a healthy, relatively physically fit person, and lost 5 lbs during the first trimester of my first pregnancy due to my inability to eat. I was nauseated 24/7. Eventually, I got dehydrated and ended up in the hospital for three days hooked up to an IV.

And hmmmm, I worked out during all three of my pregnancies, and did NOT lose all the weight and return back to my normal self right away. You see, while breastfeeding, normally you lose a lot of weight initially, then it tapers off and you tend to maintain a certain weight until you are done nursing. Then the rest comes off. at least this is the case with most people I know, but obviously there are exceptions.

I am now nearly 3 months postpartum with my third child. I worked out for almost the entire pregnancy, and have since been going to the gym several times a week, yet I still have 11 lbs to lose. Not everyone bounces immediately back to their pre-preg self, even IF they worked out during pregnancy and then after. You know, most of the people I know who have had babies lost the weight gradually. The only ones who lost it w/in the first couple of months were OBSESSED with their bodies, to the point where it is actually unhealthy.

Never in my life have I puked to avoid obesity, and I'm pretty sure the poster you refer to wasn't puking PURPOSELY during her pregnancy to avoid gaining weight.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 05-28-2003 - 11:37pm
No, but we DO say "wudder" instead of "water." And people in South Jersey say "hoohme" - gosh, how do you even spell that? Everyone sounds funny if they're not from where you live... LOL

 

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