what made you decide to do what you do?

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what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 4:09am
I actually have to be really careful because I loathe team sport of any kind, and I have to make a really conscious effort to encourage the kids if they want to. One dd played softball this year, and one dd is in an aerobics team...I sometimes think they can't be my kids LOL.

I hated sport as a kid. I enjoy walking and being active outside, but I don't play any 'sport' per se.

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Jane

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 4:11am
I agree, what's more, I think that balance in all things is a concept that parents can't really go wrong with.

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Jane

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 4:15am
Our favourite game at the moment is UNO - and it's been great for teaching concentration, counting and strategy to the little ones. There are great social skills to be learned too. In the context of a balanced lifestyle (for us it happens a few times a week after dinner before bedtime) there's nothing wrong with it, and it beats shooting monsters on a computer screen.

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Jane

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 4:19am
This is ludicrous - why is it that the only way to encourage fitness is to be involved in team sport? I'm very fit, and I don't kick goals or throw balls or anything. The kids have a healthy diet, walk to school and ride their bikes around, and we go for walks on the weekend and run around in the back yard with the dog, garden together, go for bushwalks on our holidays... You can teach a child the importance of a healthy diet and physical activity, and still enjoy the odd game of monopoly.

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Jane

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 4:24am
ITA. I was on bedrest for the bulk of two out of four pregnancies. I got fat. I got rid of it later, but I got fat - but it meant my babies didn't die. I also had PET and a lot of that 'fat' was fluid that disappeared within weeks of birth.

Malnourishment in pregnant women is very bad for the developing baby. Women who aren't fit to start off with should not start trying to lose weight or engaging in radically different exercise programs in order to get fit - the should keep it gentle and not over-exert themselves. And they certainly shouldn't diet. It's just plain dangerous.

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Jane

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 4:29am
Hyperemesis gravida isn't a lifestyle choice, it's an unwanted side effect of pregnancy...and while I don't agree that it can't be harmful (it quite clearly can if it isn't treated properly) you making out that it's some sort of weight loss strategy is possibly the most stupid thing you've ever written.

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Jane

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 5:20am
We had a 45-minute UNO game last night. Each time one of us went to go out, we needed to draw cards and would end up with more than a handful, LOL! At one time, ds ended up with a draw-12 (quite funny since he was the one who was trying to deep-six his sister with the first draw 4, LOL!).

for us, it's a way to spend some time together, talk to each other, learn strategy and how to play, how to be a good sport, play fairly, etc. All of which are valuable.

There's a board game here called Brain Busters which i like to play with the kids because it is the first knowledge game i have ever seen that takes into account kids at different age/ability levels. There are 6 topics and the questions are specific to each grade level. So Jenna plays the 2nd/3rd grade questions, ds plays the 6th grade questions as do I. However, adults are further handicapped because you can't move on the board unless you role a 3 or higher AND you answer the question correctly. It's nice because it lets the youngest player win often enough.



Eileen

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 5:27am
WHEN do you expect me to have time to sit down and READ 657 posts in just this ONE thread?? In fact, the only reason i had time to read so much yesterday is that i'm recovering from a stomach bug.

Our kids' sports participation is PART of our family-time. It is being supportive, cheering on for dd or ds and their team mates, as well as for the other team. For us, it has meant that we usually go out to eat afterwards (no, not fast food) and will spend yet another 1-1 1/2 hours at the table talking, chatting, etc.

We allow the kids 1-2 activities of their choosing, depending on the time, day, etc. Religious school is a must, but we have no problem limiting the amount of extra curricular activities.

Again, thanks for the advice. I'll let you know when i have finished all 657 posts...of course that doesn't include the ones that have already been posted this morning (did you know that by 5:00 am there were already 27 new posts on the entire board??)....Yeah, the advice was helpful...I'm glad you have time to keep up with the voluminous postings.

eileen

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 6:33am
<<(did you know that by 5:00 am there were already 27 new posts on the entire board??)...>>

Those of us who sleep during the US daylight hours and routinely come back to a board with 200+ new posts are having a difficult time sympathizing with the 27 new posts you found at 5am.

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Thu, 05-29-2003 - 7:13am
I thank you. Opinion has no clue what she is talking about apparently especially on the gestational diabetes front.

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