what made you decide to do what you do?

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what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 7:32am
I agree with you Jane. My kids happen to love team sports. But not all kids do. There is ample time for those kids to be physically active without being on a "team".

In addition to sports my kids also like chess, play video games, and watch tv. It's not really and all or nothing proposition. It is quite possible to be fit, eat healthy and still manage to have some sedentary time in your life.

Jenna

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 8:54am
You said "You seriously wish to further support the idea that a healthy weight can be maintained through obesity or puking?". This statement illustrates how truly idiotic you are. Who is maintaining a healthy weight by being bulimic? Do you think women who have hyperemesis while pregnant can help the fact that they are incredibly sick and vomiting?

The fact that you make such a ridiculous insinuation shows just how ignorant you are. Grow up. I have a feeling that if we check your scalp we'll find the numbers 666 etched there.

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 9:01am
Hey are you from south Jersey? I grew up in central Jersey and now live in south Jersey. Yes, they do say wudder down here. It is the Philly influence. I am trying to figure out what hoohme is supposed to be, however. You will also find funny pronunciations for "boat" and "house".
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 9:06am
Yes, you speak from your own personal experience. You also go around argeeing with anyone who disagrees with opinion. I don't agree with her all of the time, but that does not mean that everything that she posts of off the wall. Personally, it sounds to me like she lives in more of a real world than you do. The things she posts are not only factual for her, they are factual for you too. They are just not your personal experience. That does not make her a liar. Just a couple of posts up, you posted to her that she was full of baloney and had no clue. Again I say, her world sounds more real than yours.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 9:09am
But there is something else that happens when they get older. If they get really interested in an activity or really good at a sport or activity, it may very well take up a lot more time than you bargined for. Does that mean that you wouldn't let them pursue what interests them if it cuts into your family time? I have a daughter who is a competitive gymnast. She practices close to 20 hours per week and is very good. We have car pools worked out so that one person doesn't have to do a lot of driving. I also find that I still have plenty of time with her. I was very much the same as you when my kids were little. I learned to adjust as they got older.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 9:15am
Thanks. I'm sorry you had a hard time, too. It's just not always as easy as OP123 makes it out to me, even if the person is more motivated than I was. The "emotional exhaustion" we felt does count for something, right?

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 9:19am
Hey Eileen, want to keep your blood pressure down? Here's a hint. Go to a profile of someone whose posts drive you nuts (can you think of *anyone* like that?? LOL!). Click on the "ignore posts" link. Although you can still see the posts in the outline, you can't read them. I've done that. I like it. If you want to remove the "ignore posts" just go to your profile, update your "friends" page, and click it off.

I haven't read one of O123's posts in the past 2 days because of this option. And I haven't missed reading them either.

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 9:19am
Well, gee, if you were gone from the house 55 hours a week, including a 53 mile a day roundtrip commute, and were juggling a 2.5 year old and a 3 month old, might you have a little more stress and a little less time, both of which contribute to keeping the weight on?

Doesn't it also depend on your age and metabolism? Imagine having your first baby at 34.

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 9:42am
Actually, I can't even imageine that it's possible with that type of schedule to shower, much less fit in a fitness routine. Working out with babies and a full-time job has to be next to impossible. It's a luxury, and even if mom is NOT working, not an easy thing to do.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 9:55am
i have to agree with you here........anyone who truly believes their whole little world is tied up with a perfect bow and everyone and everything is smooth and perfect is either deluding themselves or are just blind to reality.

Jennie

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