what made you decide to do what you do?

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what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 10:10am
Actually, I was able to get in a couple of workouts, one at lunch and one on the weekends. But it takes at least 3 good workouts just to maintain weight, and more sessions to lose it. It wasn't high enough on my priority list.

I still work full time and work out much more regularly now, but that's because the kids both generally (knock wood) sleep through the night now.

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 10:24am
"hoohme" is that weird "O" sound in "home." LOL...

I grew up in central Jersey, amd now live in So. Central Jersey - an hour from Philly.

-Deb

 

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 10:29am
Actually, if I'm not mistaken, both pronunciations are more properly attributed to the Baltimore accent, especially the hoohme one. The Baltimore "oh" tends to sound like the "oo" dipthong slurring out of a long "a"...hard to describe in a written environment like this, but very distinctive.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 10:43am
I live in N. CA and there's not much of a thing with accents around here.. however... when I moved to the area I live in now, I had *no* idea what people were talking about when they said "ammond" which apparently is how you say almond here. (Lots of almond orchards) The joke is that they're almond in the tree but once harvested, they're ammonds. (To get them down, you shake the "L" out of them..) I still think it's weird.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 10:46am
Here's another suggestion for you: if you don't have time to read what someone *actually* wrote, then you probably shouldn't be criticizing what they wrote. Don't you think?

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 10:57am
Don't your kids ever get to do any cultural activities? Have they ever been to a museum or a play? Have they travelled? Do you have books in your house? Are the kids allowed to go to the library and pick up some books for themselves?

My older son is 3, and is in one activitiy, gymnastics, but I do plan to limit his activities to one sport and one music class as he gets older. I don't think he has to keep his heart rate above 140 every waking moment in order to be self-actualized. My goal is to have our kids participate in the cultural life of the world they live in. They can't do that without a little space to explore the world they live in without some adult blowing a whistle at them, telling them what to do.

I really get the sense that you see free, undirected time (and by implication, free will) as dangerous. What is it that you'd do, if you weren't so directed by other people all the time, that strikes you as dangerous?

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 11:01am
I'm just talking about people who have a 4 year old (no other babies) and blame weight on pregnancy. After 4 years, blame it on yourself.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 11:06am
I'm a runner without a partner right now, but in the past, I've always had fantastic conversations while running. There's something about the distraction of the exercise that really helps you enjoy the other person's company, and conversation. Why wouldn't you be able to talk while running? Maybe if you're a sprinter, but certainly not if you're running any distance greater than a mile. In fact, I'd say that a running partnership is a great way to build an easy, familiar, close friendship.

In college, my cross-country and track teams used to gossip and chat on our long runs. There was certainly no chance to talk during track-work, but running and chatting with a good friend is one of the great pleasures in life, IMO.

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 11:20am
You want depressing? Try having your *mom* beat you in a 5K. Granted, I just started running again two months ago, when DS was 6 months old, but it still smarts. I'm patient, though, and I figure that time is on my side. LOL.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 11:25am
Yup. I didn't really get back into shape after my first son was born because he had so many problems with eating, and various other health problems. This time around it's much easier for me to calm down enough to get out that door with my sneaks on, simply because DS2 is a healthier and happier baby.

I know that there are women who work out with kids who are seriously ill, and I admire them for it. I just didn't have it in me at the time, even though DS1's problems weren't serious or life-threatening.

Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.

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