what made you decide to do what you do?

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what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 11:30am
I haven't seen anything that I agree with her on. So? Maybe in your opinion you have found some things you do agree with her on. I have yet to find anything I have agreed with her about. Nothing. We all live in a real world, we just have different life styles and experiences. Mine may be vastly different from Opinions but may be very similar to yet someone else. that is life. Nothing she has said is factual for me. Factual for her, yes. But you are wrong, not factual for me. Not my experience. She may think it is, you may think it is, but it isn't. I never once called her a liar or insuated she was lying. But I do disagree as I don't live the same life or desire that she does and I don't think the same she does about the topics discussed here on this board. She was full of baloney and had no clue and I responded to that exact post. NOt all of the post by her, that one in particular I responded to. Some of things she says doesn't make since in anyone's world. Read what Dj and Taylormom wrote to her in the pregnancy gestation diabetic subject. That is proof right there she doesn't always know. But I still didn't call her a liar, wouldn't do that. While you may think her world sounds more real than mine that is apparently because you live a life closer to hers than I live here. But that doesn't mean anything. They are both facts.

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 11:32am
I never said my world is tied up with a perfect little bow and sorry you got that misunderstanding. I can only tell you how on the topic of conversation it is here. If it looks to neat for you, I"m sorry. But facts are facts. I've also stated we have had our school issues and problems and there have been uproars, etc. But overall I have not thankfully experienced what alot of these moms here are saying and I'm glad I haven't. Doesn't make my world picture perfect, just that my experience is vastly different.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 11:37am
That makes me feel good. I'm still nursing my 9mo, and I can't get rid of this last 15 pounds. I'm trying to wean him, not because I want to lose weight (well that's part of it) but because he's sort of in a nursing strike and I think we're better off making the break now than when he's a few months older and more attached to it. I'm having a hard time weaning, though.

On the fitness-before-pregnancy thing, I actually know quite a few mothers who were active and fit before pregnancy, and fell apart afterward. One friend of mine was thin all her life because she never kept food in her house. Once she had kids, she had to have food, and simply couldn't keep herself from eating it. Another friend went nuts when she "had" to eat for the first time, as a pregnant mom, and gained 60 pounds. People who use tricks to keep themselves thin have a hard time being pregnant, because they have to put those tricks aside for the health of the baby.

Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 11:46am
I agree. With apologies to the Baltimooooreans out there, it's my least favorite accent. I'm from northern New Jersey, where we don't speak that way. It's more of a New York accent, which I kinda like (go figure!).
Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 11:52am
Ya know, sometimes I think that the extra weight I had while nursing was all in my boobs. (huge!) haha... j/k I didn't wean until ds was 1 year... actually.. I didn't wean at all, he grew teeth and we quit cold turkey. It didn't seem to bother him, and it only hurt me for a week or so. Good Luck!
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 12:26pm
Gotcha. That is the same o sound that you would use in the word boat. I don't know about Baltimore, but I know that the Philly accents are the same way. That's the way New Jersey is. In the north, they sound more like New Yorkers, down south, they sound more like the Philly people. I have tried to keep mine more neutral but when I go out west, they always know that I am from the east coast. I talk a mile a minute LOL.

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 12:28pm
Lol, I got beat last year by a woman pushing THREE kids in a triple jogger! And they were NOT babies, the oldest looked to be 7 or so! So demoralizing!!!

dj

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 12:29pm
Hey! I've FINALLY lost my baby weight. Just 8 years after having the baby. NT
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 12:45pm
LOL. My breasts are huge, nursing or not. My jogbras are half iron, I swear. They keep the girls from getting too droopy while I run, but they sure do dig into my shoulders.
Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 12:48pm
It doesn't matter whether you agree with her. Just acknowledge that her life experience is just as valid as yours. You said that she was full of baloney and didn't have a clue. That is essentially calling her stupid and a liar. Her life is factual for her whether they are your experiences or not. No, she may not know everything, who does? People here debate all the time on limited knowledge. That doesn't mean that you have to find fault with everything that she says either. Some arguments are perfectly valid.

You already admitted in a previous thread that you don't believe something to be true even when proven to you if it goes against a preconceived belief. You called someone elses life not factual because you don't experience the same thing. Who's not living in the real world?

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