what made you decide to do what you do?

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what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 05-29-2003 - 6:16pm
Why so rude? I simply pointed out that I never said children should not be involved in extra-curricular activities, and that I said it more than once in this thread. You read one post of mine from the looks of things and ran with it. My kids are in activities too, nothing wrong with them. We were discussing over-scheduling of children and why many parents prefer not to allow more than one sport and one artsy thing at a time. Opinion seems to think that its ridiculous to limit children to the amount of sports they can do.

Rather than getting your back up so quickly and acting offended over nothing, you might read and see that all I spoke of was limiting the number of activities-not curtailing them completely. And yeah, you might have to read more than ONE post in order to infer that.

dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 05-29-2003 - 6:24pm
Right, that's always true, though a person should not even try to reach their pre-pregnancy weight while nursing lest they create less nourishing milk.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 6:27pm
and this is why i really have never *pushed* the organized sports per se. yes they have all had their turns to play soccer, baseball, basketball, football, dance, brownies, boy scouts, karate, etc, but they have always been physically active anyway. they've all had roller skates, roller blades, ice skates, bikes, scooters, skate boards, jump ropes, street hockey equipment.....yadah, yadah, yadah. they always have eaten very healthy, and even as teenagers, although they go through spells of hotdogs and pizza, they are always willing to fix salad for themselves, a steak, fruit, so it is definitely true, a person does not have to be involved in team sports to stay active. they are wonderful readers, and love nintendo, cards, board games, etc so they do get lots of "chillin" time too, which i think is very important for balance.

with all that said, i need to share what my ds1 has been doing this week, and being physically fit does help. i cant wait to hear how his snorkling in the florida, keys went. he called my mom to tell her about it, and i think hes still there. although he is out of the house, and works gobs of hours, he has figured out, if you work hard, you can play hard too.......FINALLY. LOL.

i definitely agree with total balance, and really am against too much of one activity, organized or not.

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Thu, 05-29-2003 - 6:43pm
She called me a liar. I've never called her a liar. And second, I do acknowledge that her life experience is true. I believe it is. She is the one that said mine was fiction, she is the one that called me a liar. You are policing the wrong side. I'm done with this line of conversation, it is pointless to the debate at hand.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 6:48pm
I don't have hours and hours to be here every day either. When I haven't read a post, though, I usually don't criticize it.
Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-29-2003 - 6:51pm
NO. you are wrong. it is not the only way they will develop a healthy lifestyle. *I* happen to *love* sports, and dh is not into them at all, however, has been extremely supportive of our having the kids involved in sports. they were in baseball and soccor from the age of 4, and my ds1 absolutley did not want to continue as he got older. he participated until he was around 12, and decided he didnt want to do it anymore. he was involved in virtually nothing in jr high and sr high, outside of driving the teachers and administraters nuts, but he was very physically active outside of school, as far as walking, riding his bike and skateboarding. he marches the beat of a different drum, and would not conform to "the system". now he lives on his own, holds a job and is well respected, although its not a career, he does well. he uses the manners, etiquette and good sense he forgot while a teenager.

on the flip side, my dd was not very involved in many sports at all until she got into jr high and came home and announced she joined the track team that day. then when she got into high school, joined the swimming/diving team, where btw excelled without a lesson in her life, cross country, indoor track team and outdoor track team. her jr and sr years she pole vaulted for her school. all while not being very involved in many team activities while growing up.

my point being, whether the child is or is not involved in sports as a child, is no guarantee it will continue into adulthood, or even into their teenage years.

<<>>. my kids have pretty much blown that whole theory out of the water.

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 6:56pm
AGAIN, isn't it QUITE difficult to comment on a post that you haven't read since you actually have to CLICK on it to be able to post to it??? I have SAID that i read the post i'm responding to -- and try to read some around it for context. I am allowed to criticize and/or critique anything i read. Isn't that the way this forum works?

eileen

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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 6:56pm
Wow, that is a big change. It must have taken you a few weeks to get your balance!

I went from a large C/small D to a DD. When I was in my first trimester with DS2, I told my sister on the phone that my breasts were already getting bigger and she burst out laughing at the thought of how huge they must be. Oh, well. When I'm skinny they look nice, I think. And DH always says that's the first thing he noticed about me (I, of course, noticed his eyes). I think I'll end up a C after I wean the baby, because they're already getting down to small D size.

Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 6:57pm
WAIT!! thats not true. although when i put my mind to it, i can write like nobody's business and my vocabulary "aint to shabby!!" LOL, but my spelling????? O-M-G..... I just dont have it. period. i can read til the cows come home, and its not going to happen. i spell phonetically(sp???LOL)and have just never been any good at spelling.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 7:03pm
You sure don't practice what you preach.
Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.

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