what made you decide to do what you do?

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what made you decide to do what you do?
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Wed, 05-21-2003 - 12:18pm
In the interest of changing the subject back to something that is actually relevant to a SAH/WOH debate (LOL!), I will pose a question to anyone who wants to answer:

Who or what would you say was the greatest influence on your decision to SAH or WOH, whichever one you do (or want to do, if you aren't doing what you want)? Did any particular person, circumstance, situation, or anything else lead you to decide this question one way or the other?

What if two different influences conflicted? How did you make the decision then?

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Fri, 05-30-2003 - 4:39am
We'll have to agree to disagree since i HAVE read WHATEVER post i'm responding to (and a bunch around it for context)...and generally have no trouble understanding it. Of course, if the content of that ENTIRE note is dependent on 657 supporting threads???? therein lies the problem. And other posters are also free to criticize on what they wish.

eileen

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Fri, 05-30-2003 - 7:59am
Oh, I do agree with you. When my child has to spend a lot of time with one activity, he or she pretty much does not do any others. There is a difference to me too.

Your son is still pretty young, isn't he? When he gets older, you will probably find that the lessons will fall more into a later schedule because they have to accomodate school. None of our karate classes fall before 4:30 and they vary each day so that parents can make it. Sport practices are usually after 5:30 or 6:00 because the coaches (usually Dads) are working. Games are on Saturdays or Sundays. You will find more of your activities in the evenings and weekends.

As to play dates, there are kids on my street that my kids can just go out and play with. I do shuttle them around but mostly on Friday afternoons and on the weekends to play with their friends.

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Fri, 05-30-2003 - 8:05am
You are right and I am not defending her on those posts. What I am pointing out is that just because she does that on some posts, not all of them are off the wall. Also, many people post things here that are hard to believe but you never can tell because this is only an internet message board. Some of the more bizarre posts will be questioned. I try to keep an open mind with her and everybody else.

And for me, her life experiences seem closer to reality than SHM. Of course, that is just my opinion.

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Fri, 05-30-2003 - 8:33am
*insert hysterical laughter here* "While they are reading...simply sponging off someone elses imagination. Being able to read - the tool - indispensible. Reading - the hobby - vastly overrated."

How do you even start with an asinine comment like that? You may have the concentration span of a flea, preventing you from enjoying a good book, but please, let the grown ups alone who understand the value of literature as not only a social commentary but as a way of linking communities, learning and broadening one's horizons, and developing a view of the outside world that doesn't just hinge on one's own personal experience. Maybe that's your problem, why you are so palpably unable to empathise with anyone whose experience doesn't exactly mirror your own.

pax

Jane

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Fri, 05-30-2003 - 10:36am
LOL... well it helps with spelling! Maybe you would be much worse if you didn't read much!
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Fri, 05-30-2003 - 11:45am
I think I can guess where you are from because I grew up in East Brunswick, right near the turnpike exit. My mother sold her house years ago and I don't get back there very much anymore, but I still know the area pretty well.
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Fri, 05-30-2003 - 11:46am
I went to high school in Piscataway. It was a Catholic school that is now closed so I am sure you can guess what it was LOL. I also went to Rutgers and the Engineering school was in Piscataway. I spent a lot of time there.
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Fri, 05-30-2003 - 1:06pm
Well, that's good to know. He's not quite 5 yet and I guess I didn't bother to look at the karate schedule for older kids to see when they might be. It seems that working part time doesn't even help me right now because I work on Mondays and Tuesdays. The swimming classes I've looked into are either Monday and Wednesday or Tuesday and Thursday--before I get off work. (And I get off at 4pm, for cryin' out loud. LOL)

You're so lucky you have kids on your block. (Not that I would let my 5yo just "go out and play down the street.) I love having kids over to play, but scheduling it is such a hassle because of my schedule and the fact that the other moms have more than one kid, nannies that don't drive, etc. I wish we had a family right next door with kids. My friend just moved into a new house and their neighbors have two kids the same age as theirs.

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Fri, 05-30-2003 - 4:53pm
Yeah, but who's ever heard of Spotswood? ;-)

 

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Fri, 05-30-2003 - 6:26pm
what year did you graduate high school. i know some kids who went there.

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