what should i do?

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what should i do?
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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 11:03pm

I am due with our first baby in October and currently work full time as a registered dietitian, I am not sure about working full time or part time after the baby comes. I just passed a part time job because it was in the hospital and I

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Fri, 06-06-2008 - 9:18am

Five months of maternity leave sounds great! Did DH's parents offer to provide full-time childcare, or are you assuming that they'll do it? My main concern is for your in-laws. They will get to a point where they need a break (or in my parents' case, a 2-week anniversary cruise) and might resent you and DH if they feel trapped providing childcare. Be sure to have reliable backup.

Regarding breast feeding, by five months you should have breast feeding very well established, and so if you're pumping 3 times at work and then nursing often when you're at home, then that should go well.

You'll be fine and the baby will be fine. Again though, my concern is over the immense obligation that you'll be placing on the grandparents by asking for full-time care.








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Fri, 06-06-2008 - 10:12am
It sounds like an excellent plan. I am sure you will be tired, but that is part of having kids, I am afraid.
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Sat, 06-07-2008 - 5:38pm
Thank you, that
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Sat, 06-07-2008 - 5:48pm

Thank you for your insight, the in law imposition has crossed my mind, we are kind of assuming a little that my in laws will take care of them since they are always complaining they never get enough time with there other grandkids,

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Sat, 06-07-2008 - 6:19pm

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It's never too early to be clear on childcare arrangements. What if there is a reason that they can't do it that you don't know of? Or maybe they're glad to help, but didn't realize that your DH was talking about regular, all-day, long-term childcare as opposed to babysitting often? Many places have waiting lists for infants. It would take time to find suitable and available alternative means of childcare if they can't do it, so you don't want to wait until your third trimester.

Better safe than sorry, and better now than later. Go ahead and check with them. You can break the ice by mentioning "DH is always joking about you providing childcare when the baby comes, but I was wondering whether or not you guys actually mean it when you say "sure", and what amount of childcare did you guys have in mind? For instance, are we talking babysitting, or would you actually be willing to watch the baby while I was at work? Either way, you guys are awesome, and thank you!"







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Sat, 06-07-2008 - 7:20pm

It is NOT too early b/c if your assumption they're willing to do all day care 3 times a week is false you need time to find a place you feel comfortable with. I had my daycare spot locked in when I was four months pregnant b/c they only took one infant at a time and I wanted it to be mine! LOL

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Registered: 04-16-2001
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 10:04am

You may also want to look into part-time positions.

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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 12:07pm
I would definately ask the inlaws now- if they can't you need to plan!

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Wed, 06-11-2008 - 5:50pm

IT is never too early to ask and set up tenative plans for daycare, but you still have a while until March. Who knows what may happen or come up between now and then. You may have your baby and decide to go part time or even stay home for awhile. Who knows.


I would reccommend that you also have a back up sitter even if your in laws are your main sitter. That way if they are sick or have travel plans you know what you are going to take your baby on those days.


Good luck!!

Lori

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Registered: 03-21-2001
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 9:15pm

I would recommend looking at other options for daycare and for work schedules.

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