What works for your family

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Registered: 08-22-2009
What works for your family
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Fri, 04-23-2010 - 12:20pm
in the division of labor?

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 12:43pm

-See, I don't have a problem with that. We do not both have to be busy at the same time to be sharing the load. Sometimes I may be busy and he is doing nothing, other times he may be busy while I am doing nothing.-


Ditto


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Registered: 07-08-2001
Thu, 05-13-2010 - 9:42am

DH and I both work full time. He works nights and I work days. DS is in kindergarten and DD is in daycare about 30 hours a week.

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Registered: 03-29-1999
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 3:58pm

DH used to be a SAH dad and then, he did most of the day-to-day housework like cooking, straightening, dusting vacuuming, mowing, etc.

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Sun, 05-09-2010 - 3:06pm

LOL, yeah this is us too ;o)

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Registered: 08-27-2007
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 7:05pm

He does dinner on the nights he is home for dinner (he's a chef so he works dinners). He does the washing and drying b/c I have a harder time going up an down stairs. I do the sorting and folding and putting away.


I do school lunches, he does the drop off to school. I do the pick up from school and the homework.


He does the bedtime routine. I do the nightly meds.


He does the yard work. I do the house work.

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Sun, 04-25-2010 - 1:24pm

Right now what works is that I mostly take care of the inside of the house (cleaning, laundry, dishes) and the little kids, almost all diapers, dh helps out on the weekends a little bit. I take full responsibility for my ODD, and his older kids when he's not here if they are here, he takes mostly full responsibility for his kids when he's home (I help out). He takes care of the outside including gardening, I do not want anything to do with that (he has help from teenagers), and I don't care who takes out the garbage as long as it's not me (usually teenagers but if not it falls to dh). When dh is home, he is in charge of making dinner, otherwise I muddle through or order out. I usually do the grocery shopping but a couple times a month he'll do it. I take care of the dog when nobody else is here, someone else takes care of the dog when someone else is here (dh or teenagers). Dh earns all the money.

This is how it is now. When I was working it was different, when I'm working full time again it'll be different. We'll divide the inside stuff differently AND we'll get a maid again. He'll still be in charge of all the outside stuff, I'll probably still have the laundry, he's more the chef, I'm more the cleanup. Those things probably won't change.

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Sun, 04-25-2010 - 1:03pm
Usually my dh does the car repair... no point in paying someone when you have an ASE certified mechanic in the house. Got to eat my words a few weeks back though... clutch went on my truck and dh just didn't have time. I took a vehicle to the mechanic for the first time ever. Ouch!

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Sat, 04-24-2010 - 10:58pm
It's just as well; if any poor prey got into the condo, there'd be a blood bath and guess who'd have to clean up the carcass?? Fancy Feast costs more, but it's easier to clean up after. ;)

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Sat, 04-24-2010 - 10:06pm
I thought that I would add...dh manages the maintenance and repair schedules, in the same way that I manage the kids' appointments, but either of us could be the one to attend the appts.
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Registered: 04-16-2010
Sat, 04-24-2010 - 10:03pm
Dh usually takes our cars in, but I do it once in a while...just depends on the circumstances.

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