-See, I don't have a problem with that. We do not both have to be busy at the same time to be sharing the load. Sometimes I may be busy and he is doing nothing, other times he may be busy while I am doing nothing.-
DH and I both work full time. He works nights and I work days. DS is in kindergarten and DD is in daycare about 30 hours a week.
DH used to be a SAH dad and then, he did most of the day-to-day housework like cooking, straightening, dusting vacuuming, mowing, etc.
LOL, yeah this is us too ;o)
He does dinner on the nights he is home for dinner (he's a chef so he works dinners). He does the washing and drying b/c I have a harder time going up an down stairs. I do the sorting and folding and putting away.
I do school lunches, he does the drop off to school. I do the pick up from school and the homework.
He does the bedtime routine. I do the nightly meds.
He does the yard work. I do the house work.
*Praying for my best friend, my Dad*
Right now what works is that I mostly take care of the inside of the house (cleaning, laundry, dishes) and the little kids, almost all diapers, dh helps out on the weekends a little bit. I take full responsibility for my ODD, and his older kids when he's not here if they are here, he takes mostly full responsibility for his kids when he's home (I help out). He takes care of the outside including gardening, I do not want anything to do with that (he has help from teenagers), and I don't care who takes out the garbage as long as it's not me (usually teenagers but if not it falls to dh). When dh is home, he is in charge of making dinner, otherwise I muddle through or order out. I usually do the grocery shopping but a couple times a month he'll do it. I take care of the dog when nobody else is here, someone else takes care of the dog when someone else is here (dh or teenagers). Dh earns all the money.
This is how it is now. When I was working it was different, when I'm working full time again it'll be different. We'll divide the inside stuff differently AND we'll get a maid again. He'll still be in charge of all the outside stuff, I'll probably still have the laundry, he's more the chef, I'm more the cleanup. Those things probably won't change.
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