What would you give up to stay home?
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| Sat, 08-05-2006 - 8:36am |
Hi everyone.
I have always said that staying home is so important to me that I would give up many things to be able to do that. We live in a very small home, I have no jewelry and we buy all our clothes at Walmart. I know that if I went back to work, we could afford more. But I would never trade being at home for a larger house or more luxuries.
However, after reading this board I have started to suspect that there are things I would not want to give up. If I couldn't send my kids to preschool a couple of hours a day, if I couldn't afford any after school activities like ballet lessons or if I could'nt afford any kind of summer program for them, I think I would have to find a way to go back to work. So basically, I'm perfectly happy to deny myself "things." But I would not want to take much away from the kids.
Of course I would probably have to find a new career becuase I could never work the 80 hours a week my old career entailed.

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That's right but what does this debate have to do about chidlren being well cared for? They can and do get well cared for either way. Besides, SAH is not a guarantee that children will be well cared for. Some SAHM's shouldn't be allowed to own a gold fish.
"I think there are certainly positives to sah, but i think most of them are positives for the mom or even the family as a whole, but i havent seen one positive of sah that influences only the kids."
Are you serious? I had a SAHM. The positives were...I didnt come home to an empty house. A huge thing in the pre teen and teen years. I knew there was an adult whose job it was to keep me out of trouble. Another huge positive. I also never wanted for any attention, a huge positive. To say that SAH doesnt benefit kids is like saying that one on one education doesnt benefit them. Is it imperitive? No. Does it help? You bet. Can it make a huge difference in a childs life well past childhood? Yep and yep.
SAH does not usually determine your future retirement age."
Um well it definetly could and in many cases should. Its a simple math equation. I fully support SAH, and its important to us to have a SAHP. But in many cases it does mean financial sacrifice.
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